Is eloping a good solution for us?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@walnutgirl:  We had a private wedding with two witnesses in the gorgeous location of our choosing.  Families were happy (to my guess) with this because they got out of having to travel and use their precious vacation time.  I think we did them a favor!  Weddings are generally a pain in the ass for other people involved.  That is my conclusion and what I was taught my entire life – “Elope and do everyone a favor.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It does sound like eloping is a good option for you!  Go, have your dream private wedding and spend the money to hit each of the countries your friends/family live in to see them/have dinner with them. (doesn’t have to be in one trip or even in one year). 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Schatzie821 brings up a good point – you can use the money you saved to go visit people.  We did this.  We have seen almost everyone so far (that’s about 8 states).

Post # 7
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

A private wedding does sound like a good option for you. 

 

I’ve never thought about using the money left over from the private wedding to visit the friends and family in all of those different countries the way Schatzie821 suggested, but it really is a great idea. 

 

If you want your family involved, maybe you and your fiancée could find a way to stream the wedding live so that they’re still able to see it as it happens. 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It would probably be best to find out how your parents feel before making a deciscion, you are their daughter so by tradition it would be their wedding too (as hosts), if they’re happy then I think a private wedding would be delightful and I love @Schatzie821:  ‘s suggestion of doing a post-wedding friend tour 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@walnutgirl:  Well just ask them so you know what they are feeling for sure.  Maybe they would like to be there in theory, but toally agree it would be a huge PITA and too expensive. 

And if you’re thinking of a no child wedding when people are flying across the ocean to go to your wedding, you might want to reconsider that option or else you’ll have a lot of ticked off people.  People typically don’t go on huge flights without their kids.  I say this even as a childfree woman.  That’s just asking a lot.

I say elope!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I still wish FI would be ok with eloping, I am enjoying planning our large downtown wedding but eloping was always my dream! 

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