(Closed) Is FI's Suggestion Tacky?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
5663 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My first question is, what is the difference between buying them first or a few days after the wedding?

Post # 4
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@futuremrsndl:  Anyway you could charge the wedding party gifts and repay yourselves with gift money?

Post # 5
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Same question as the first poster. What is going to be the difference between just a few days? Is it because you will be buying them with gift money?

Post # 6
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Since money is going to be tight right around the wedding, what about having the bridal party over for dinner or something a few weeks afterwards? I think it’s fine to give gifts a little bit later- one less thing for the bridal party to deal with. 

Neither a Rehearsal Dinner or the gifts have to be over the top- you could have people over for pizza, if that worked in your budget.

Post # 7
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I believe my sister gave bridal party gifts after the event, and it was fine.  Less for the bridal party to haul home (she had a destination wedding).

We’re not doing a rehearsal dinner either, and I don’t feel like I’m depriving anyone.

Post # 8
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t think its a big deal. I’ve received a bridal party gift at a different time in each wedding.  Rehearsal dinner,  wedding day, brunch the following day, a week later. I never minded it was just nice to be acknowledged.  

Post # 9
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t see the big deal.  I’ve been in a wedding where she gave gifts after she came home from her honeyoon, and the gifts were souvenir-esque.

Post # 10
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t even realise that the bridal party got gifts until I came here – I don’t think it’s really a thing in Australia. So, yeah, if I were in your bridal party and you gave me a gift a few days or weeks after the wedding, I’d just be thrilled to be getting something 🙂

Post # 11
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t think any but potentially other Bee stalking BMs would even realize they were supposed to get anything more than a heart felt thank you for being in the bridal party so I don’t think its an issue. I hope your bridal party are people close to you who would understand that money is tight.

Post # 12
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@futuremrsndl:  How can it possibly be bad taste to give gifts individually and personally? Of course that is fine. We don’t do rehearsal dinners here in Australia, so I gave gifts before the wedding, like you are planning to. That’s also what’s happened when I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 13
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it is fine to give them gifts after the wedding.You could always give them something inexpensive and homemade too.

Post # 14
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

I think it’s fine to give them gifts afterward. I would write them heartfelt cards and give them out the morning of the wedding though. It’s nice to be acknowledged on the day as well.

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