Is friends with benefits with an ex a bad idea?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is being friends with benefits a bad idea?
    No, not at all. : (11 votes)
    5 %
    It would be ok if it was a meaningless relationship. : (19 votes)
    8 %
    Yes! Bad idea, don't do it! : (209 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 3
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Don’t do it.  He is an ex for a reason.  It is easier to just make a clean break and move on.  Lingering around for sex almost ensures you will maintain an emotional attachment.

    Post # 4
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Oh no.  Don’t do it.  Please.  Never ends well. 

    Post # 5
    11287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @MsLabRat:  i agree.  they are an ex for a reason.

    Post # 6
    6751 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    You don’t have the option:


    Because that’s the one I would have picked..

    Post # 7
    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    Do bears shit in the woods? Is the Pope Catholic?

    Post # 8
    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    DON’T DO IT!!!  Worst idea ever!  I once thought it was a good idea cause I “thought” I didn’t care anymore.  I was wrong!  I ended up getting hurt then just like I did the first time.  Someone always gets hurt in any friends with benefits arrangement and its twice as bad when its with an ex.

    Post # 9
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I have done it in the past (we weren’t engaged though) and it actually wasn’t that bad…he was like a best friend but also a little more…until I wanted to work on us again but he didnt…I wasn’t hurt but it kinda sucked…if it gets you emotionally involved and you could possibly get hurt I wouldnt do it but its its meaningless and you both are single then it might be ok…

    Post # 10
    8044 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013


    Post # 11
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    ugh, don’t do it. I came really close once…it’s sooo tempting…and its so funny how you can talk yourself into thinking this is a great idea! it’s just not. 


    Post # 12
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I did with an ex I was horribly in love with just because the sex was so phenomenal. And shockingly I was able to instantly break it off when I met FI. Never saw the ex again. But I certainly don’t recommend it. The whole time I was wishing he would just want to get back together. It’s tough to separate sex and emotions.

    Post # 13
    3636 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Duh. I think you already know the answer to this one…

    Post # 14
    4816 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wanna hear from the 4 which think it’s a good idea.

    Post # 16
    1567 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Been there, done that.

    DON’T DO IT.

    I cried every nght for 10 months because he wouldnt tell me if he wanted to be with me or not, it was horrible.

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