Post # 1
I see frequently on these boards women proclaming a distane towards getting a “used ring.” Where I live, it’s not uncommon at all to buy a ring from a pawn shop, antique shop, or even Craigslist/Ebay. It just seems to make SO much more sence financially. My FH bought my ring from a very reputable pawn shop (then had it appraised as well) and I am SO happy that he did! In fact, after the ring shock wore off when I saw my e-ring, I told him “please tell me you didn’t buy this at a jewelry store!” He saved a considerable ammount of money (like..a lot) buying a “used diamond” and for his budjet, I was able to get a much larger, nicer stone then I would have got at a brick and mortar store.
Is buying your girl a used ring really that big of a deal? I mean, besides having less of a selection, I can’t find a big deal in the idea of saving a ton of money for the same thing.
(and now for a little bling porn. Cause that’s what we’re all crusin this board for, right? :p)
ETA: GAH! ALL MY PICTURES CAME OUT ALL WARPED. IM A MAJOR FAIL DOWNLOADING PICTURES!
Post # 3
i wouldnt care if it was used or not….as long as its what you want and NOT from a previous relationship of your FIs. But my FIs best friend took his ring from his failed marriage and got it reset…. his new wife was fine with it. That im not to sure of, I wouldve told him to exhange it…but i wouldnt care from where!
@SuzySchmoozy:your ring is stunning
Post # 4
I would have a problem with a ring that was purchased for an ex or purchased before my Fiance met me. I like the fact that my Fiance took my personality and tastes into account when he bought it.
That being said, if he found the perfect ring for me at a pawn shop/antique shop/estate sale, I wouldn’t have a problem with that. As long as he really was thinking of me when he bought it.
Post # 5
Diamond is a diamond… doesn’t matter to me who has worn it before.
Your ring is gorgeous btw. I love marquise cuts and yours looks great on your finger.
Post # 6
Yeah, a ring from an ex, or from a relative’s failed marriage? Not cool, for me personally.
I wouldn’t mind a “used” ring that was an antique or something like that, but I think some of the stigma that comes with getting a ring from say, a pawn shop, or ebay and the like, is the reputable-ness of the seller. The risk of getting rippped off is pretty scary for some people. (Not that a brick and mortar store can’t rip you off with a “new” ring, but it’s more heard of happening elsewhere)
Post # 7
Yes, I agree that a ring from a pervious relationship would be the place I’d cross the line….even then, if money was a huge factor, and it was ALL he could afford, and had the diamond reset to look TOTALLY different..I couldn’t hate on that.
Post # 8
Heck no. I’d love a ring from the 20’s or 30’s actually. If it was his ex wife’s ring, then no.
Post # 9
I would be OK with a ring from a pawn shop, I think.
But def not from anyone I know’s previous marriage. My BIL had offered us his old wedding ring to melt down the gold and use the money towards our rings. I wanted NO part of it. His marriage was horrible, deceitful and hurtful. I wanted no part of it to be a part of our marriage.
It’s irrational but that’s just how I felt.
Post # 10
After reading a lot about rings AFTER getting mine, I now feel differently. Before I was engaged I had the attitude that the diamond had to be new and I had to be the first woman to wear it. Now after reading so many stories and seeing so many pictures featuring antique rings, my attitude has changed. Of course, if my Fiance did get a ring from a pawn shop or antique store, I would probably have the diamond re-set into a sturdier, more modern setting because I’m pretty picky (I custom designed my ring so it’s exactly how I like it… haha).
For those with “used” diamonds, do you know the specs of your stone? Did the store provide you with the diamond certification or did you have to find out size, cut, clarity, and color from an independent appraisal?
Post # 11
Funny enough, I jump at the chance to tell people he bought it at a pawn shop. Here in the woods of New Husband…I rarely see a stone as large as mine, and I actually QUITE often get the “who’d he half to rob to get the money for that” look from people. (which is really friggin obnoxious, grr) Around here, you’re a fool to pay full price for something you could get a better deal on. (bragging about the amazing deal you got on your used chainsaw makes you look like a better NewEnglander then spending more on a new one. Aparantly)
Post # 12
Mine’s a family ring, so it’s plenty used. 4 generations. I prefer it to be “used,” I like it to have a story behind it.
Post # 13
Thankyou, I LOVE it! (and I would have never chosen a marquise shape, but it looks so lovely on my long fingers, now I wouldn’t ever pick a different shape)
Post # 14
@SuzySchmoozy: GAH! ALL MY PICTURES CAME OUT ALL WARPED. IM A MAJOR FAIL DOWNLOADING PICTURES! <
This made me LOL so loud! 😀
I think it’s neat when someone gets a used diamond that has a story behind it, such as being passed down through the generations in a family. I also agree that there’s nothing wrong with getting a used diamond at a pawn shop or similar situation. Like the OP said, more bang for your buck.
I do, however, have an issue with a used diamond if “used” meant the diamond was used in a different relationship for that man. If I were receiving a diamond that my man had given someone else I would feel second best, when in reality every woman should feel like her man’s #1 gal when he proposes to her. (excuse the cornyness)
OP – Your ring is stunning btw.
Post # 15
Mine came with an aparasial from a jeweler that the pawn shop used. It had all the specs. FH bought the ring on the condition that it appraised reasonably the same by an indipendant jeweler (which it did)
Post # 16
I think there is a huge difference between a pawn shop or antique store ring, and a ring that was intended for an ex. They are both definitely “used,” but the emotional intent behind a ring purchased for an ex wouldn’t make me feel happy or special.