(Closed) Is getting a “used diamond” realy that big of a deal?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be unhappy with a "used diamond"
    Yes, I want the ring to be brand new : (35 votes)
    13 %
    No, all diamonds are super old anyways : (244 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 3
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    i wouldnt care if it was used or not….as long as its what you want and NOT from a previous relationship of your FIs. But my FIs best friend took his ring from his failed marriage and got it reset…. his new wife was fine with it. That im not to sure of, I wouldve told him to exhange it…but i wouldnt care from where! 

    @SuzySchmoozy:your ring is stunning

    Post # 4
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would have a problem with a ring that was purchased for an ex or purchased before my Fiance met me. I like the fact that my Fiance took my personality and tastes into account when he bought it. 

    That being said, if he found the perfect ring for me at a pawn shop/antique shop/estate sale, I wouldn’t have a problem with that. As long as he really was thinking of me when he bought it. 

    Post # 5
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Diamond is a diamond… doesn’t matter to me who has worn it before.

    Your ring is gorgeous btw.  I love marquise cuts and yours looks great on your finger.

    Post # 6
    1543 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yeah, a ring from an ex, or from a relative’s failed marriage? Not cool, for me personally.

    I wouldn’t mind a “used” ring that was an antique or something like that, but I think some of the stigma that comes with getting a ring from say, a pawn shop, or ebay and the like, is the reputable-ness of the seller. The risk of getting rippped off is pretty scary for some people. (Not that a brick and mortar store can’t rip you off with a “new” ring, but it’s more heard of happening elsewhere)

    Post # 8
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Heck no. I’d love a ring from the 20’s or 30’s actually. If it was his ex wife’s ring, then no.

    Post # 9
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would be OK with a ring from a pawn shop, I think.

    But def not from anyone I know’s previous marriage. My BIL had offered us his old wedding ring to melt down the gold and use the money towards our rings. I wanted NO part of it. His marriage was horrible, deceitful and hurtful. I wanted no part of it to be a part of our marriage.

    It’s irrational but that’s just how I felt.

    Post # 10
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    After reading a lot about rings AFTER getting mine, I now feel differently. Before I was engaged I had the attitude that the diamond had to be new and I had to be the first woman to wear it. Now after reading so many stories and seeing so many pictures featuring antique rings, my attitude has changed. Of course, if my Fiance did get a ring from a pawn shop or antique store, I would probably have the diamond re-set into a sturdier, more modern setting because I’m pretty picky (I custom designed my ring so it’s exactly how I like it… haha).

    For those with “used” diamonds, do you know the specs of your stone? Did the store provide you with the diamond certification or did you have to find out size, cut, clarity, and color from an independent appraisal?

    Post # 12
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Mine’s a family ring, so it’s plenty used. 4 generations. I prefer it to be “used,” I like it to have a story behind it.

    Post # 14
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900


    This made me LOL so loud!  😀

    I think it’s neat when someone gets a used diamond that has a story behind it, such as being passed down through the generations in a family.  I also agree that there’s nothing wrong with getting a used diamond at a pawn shop or similar situation.  Like the OP said, more bang for your buck.

    I do, however, have an issue with a used diamond if “used” meant the diamond was used in a different relationship for that man.  If I were receiving a diamond that my man had given someone else I would feel second best, when in reality every woman should feel like her man’s #1 gal when he proposes to her.  (excuse the cornyness)

    OP – Your ring is stunning btw.

    Post # 16
    1458 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I think there is a huge difference between a pawn shop or antique store ring, and a ring that was intended for an ex.  They are both definitely “used,” but the emotional intent behind a ring purchased for an ex wouldn’t make me feel happy or special.

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