Post # 1
fiance and I are starting to look at possible wedding dates (summer 2016 so no rush) and the only day we both like falls on a Saturday of a long weekend. We’re finding most peoples reactions to that is very discouraging (even from our wedding party). They’re saying they always have plans on long weekends and lots people won’t come (is that true??). I assumed it would be better for people especially out of townies. Is it really that bad of a thing or are the people around us just overreacting?
Post # 2
SimpleCountryLife: It would be fine for us, especially if there was travel involved. You will find however, that many people are stuck in a rut and do the same things on long weekends, year in and year out.
Post # 3
SimpleCountryLife: We are having our wedding on the 6th of Spetember 2015 and all of our guests were happy about it as it would give them plenty of time to travel in and out. I think it depends on which week-end of the year and maybe, where it is? We live in the DMV area and some of our guests are excited to take a mini tour of DC.
Post # 4
We chose labor day weekend in 2015 for our wedding, because it is a three day weekend and 95% of the guests and the entire wedding party (ourselves included) are coming in from out of town. Why force people to take time off work when there is a three day weekend?
Post # 5
A lot of people take advantage of long weekends for family vacations. A lot of times family reunions are planned for the same holiday weekend every year.
Post # 6
SimpleCountryLife: I have no problem with it. And I know one couple who had a wedding on a long weekend and everyone important came.
But… the opinions that matter are not ours, but those of your potential guests. Perhaps ask around family and friends.
Post # 7
My 1st daughter to marry had a 90% acceptance rate, for the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend, last year. Except for one couple who said they’d be at the beach that weekend, no one gave holiday travel, as a reason. P.S. The venue was about an hour from the New Jersey shore. I know of at least 10 couples who were at the shore, attended the wedding, and either went back to the shore or home, for Memorial Day.
My 2nd daughter to marry picked the Sunday of Labor Day weekend, also due to venue availability, and also for travel. We had about a 10% decline rate, for bride’s family/parent’s friends, 20% decline for the bride’s friends, and 40% for the groom’s side. The venue was 3.5 hours east of the groom’s side and 1.5 hours west, of the brides’s, so many of her sides’ guests didn’t stay overnight.
Since guests like his groomsmen (3.5 hours) and his sister’s family (7 hours) probably couldn’t all take off on Friday, to attend the dinner and rehearsal that night, the 3-day weekend worked better, for them. I think that with sufficient notice – the save the dates were mailed-out 10 months before, with a link to the website, which included room-block information, etc., you’ll have a better chance of higher attendance.
Post # 8
Memorial Day weekend is iffy if I have to travel. Airfares are crazy and the roads are jam packed! I’d still go, but it’s less convenient.
Any other three-day weekend would be fantastic for me, especially if I had to travel. Less time off work and more time to relax and enjoy!
Post # 9
meh… I do find it quite annoying because it usually makes travel and accommodation costs rise and sometimes it’s a weekend when we have set plans already. That said, I’ve not turned down an invite where that was the deciding factor.
Post # 10
SimpleCountryLife: The people who really care will come. The ones who use the holday weekend as an excuse would probably have found another reason not to come )I was married the sunday pf memorial day weekend.
Post # 11
SimpleCountryLife: This is not one of those things where there is a “right” or “wrong” answer–there’s just what works for the important people in your life or not, like aussiemum1248: has suggested. I know that if I want all my favorite relatives at an event, Labor Day and the lead-up to Christmas are right out because some of my relatives have been celebrating those holidays with the same group of people for 25+ years and it would cause controversy to demand that they choose between those important traditions and a wedding. Thanksgiving and the Fourth of July, on the other hand, wouldn’t cause much of a fuss because they aren’t important celebratory events in my family. You are free to pick a date with special meaning for you and your partner, but you also have to be prepared for people to decline and remember that “if they really loved you they’d cancel their plans/spend the extra money to travel on a holiday/etc./etc.”-type sentiments are not becoming.
Post # 12
Depends what the weekend was. Our bank holidays in the UK tend to be fairly meaningless (aside from Christmas and Easter), so I wouldn’t have a problem attending and I doubt anyone else would. However, I get the impression that American holidays tend to have more traditions, so it would be worth doing a quick survey of the people you 100% desperately want to attend to make sure they could.
Also: Don’t play the “anyone who cares enough will be there” card. The flip side to that is “anyone who cared about their guests wouldn’t book their wedding for a date/time/place they know is inconvenient”.
Post # 13
I think it depends on what your and your FI’s families do for long holidays weekends. For example, DH’s family has a golf outing/mini family reunion every year for Labor Day so they wouldn’t be happy to have a wedding that same weekend. Several of my friends go camping over Memorial Day weekend. For me personally, I am a high school teacher and our high school graduates the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend and it’s mandatory that faculty attend, so if it was an out of town wedding, I would not be able to attend.
I also agree that travel is usually terrible around holiday weekends and many hotels and restaurants jack up their prices too.
I would check with those close to you and see their thoughts before you set a date.
Post # 14
SimpleCountryLife: We got married on the 6th of July, right after Independance Day, and most people had a very, very long weekend. We had a hard time finding a date, and this was the first available date for our church and venue that matched up, so I didn’t give the long weekend thing a thought. There were a few people who said that they couldn’t come because it was over the 4th of July vacatio, but we still had an amazing guest count. Many people still chose to celebrate with us.
Post # 15
I think it does depend on your guests. However, if you give them fair warning – they should be able to plan accordingly. Is your wedding on a friday or Saturday? I think this makes a difference too. For some.
I had a shower and bachelorette party over Labor Day weekend, and gave the heads up to everyone invited after Memorial Day (and some friends earlier than that)… and the holiday wasn’t the reason some of them couldn’t make it.
BUt, as other PPs said – no matter that date, the ones who matter will make it no matter what!