Post # 1
So my FI and I finally updated our website in prep for wedding festivities, including information on our bridal party!
Well, I got some weird questions posed to other people that i happened to overhear about “she has TWO MOHs?” as if it was the weirdest thing ever.
I had to go onto explain the two people I chose were like my two BEST friends (I don’t have any sisters) and we’re like a trio so it wouldve been weird if I chose one over the other and such… and it made it easier for them to coordinate things since its two people working on it instead of one! However, i realized.. why the heck do I even need to explain myself?! It’s my wedding, I can have 4 maids of honor if i wanted, right? lol. Also, I have 2 other bridesmaids, so my bridal party is a total of 4 – so its not like they are the only people in my party.
So again, I ask… is it really that weird? Who else has more than one MOH or more than one “special title” for their girls other than just bridesmaids?
I added a poll for simplicity, not sure if I captured all of it.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s weird. I had a Maid of Honor, 2 Matrons of Honor, and 2 Bridesmaids of Honor.
Post # 4
I have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor!
Post # 5
yeah!! thanks girls. i was seriously starting to doubt myself.. lol 🙂
Post # 6
I have Maid and Matron. If my sister wasn’t married it would be two Maids 🙂
Post # 7
I must be real weird then because I decided not to pick and choose through my girls lol So, I am having a MOH and then the other 4 girls are Matrons of honor. They are all special so I decided they all decided to be honorary.
Post # 8
I just have the one Matron of Honor, but my fiance is having a Best Man and a Best Woman.
Post # 9
i dont think its strange at all alot of people have a maid of honor and a matron of honor and to me there basicly the same thing lol… But me personaly im not having a MOH at all just 5 regular brides maids lol….
Post # 10
i love all of my friends so much they are ALL my maids of honor =)
Post # 11
Me, too! I have 2 best friends. AND they hardly know each other, so I invited them both. Originally it was just the two of them.
Then I added a bridesmaid.
Post # 12
I don’t think its weird at all, but I have two Matrons of honor and a Maid! They are my three best friends and they all deserve the title in my eyes!
Post # 13
Out of the 8 in my bridal party there are two Matrons and one Maid. My two married sisters and my 13 year old daughter. No question in my head what they would be called. Didn’t even have to ask them to stand up!
Post # 14
I have two maids of honor. I’ve known both girls since elementary school. One I met in kindergarten, and the other I met in 3rd grade. We’ve been friends for so long, there was no way I could pick. Neither one are married so there’s no maid/matron thing…just two maids of honor. Then I have 1 BM (my FSIL).
I thought about it for months before deciding that I just wasn’t going to choose.
Post # 15
I voted that I think it’s weird, but really I just find it unnecessary. I think the whole concept of a MOH is a little weird tbh. Since most people have more than one maid who are “extra” special to them, it just opens the door to hurt feelings IMO. Being a BM is an important job and I think picking and choosing multiple BMs to have some elevated status over others could be a bit of a slap in the face to the second-class/ not “honored” ones. I’m not having a MOH at all because I dont want to single anyone out and I dont have an obvious choice like a sister.
To be brutally honest, I would find it much less “weird” if you had like 6 or 7 BMs, since with only 4, you’re making half your bridal party “honored” and half not. But you are absolutely right in that its YOUR wedding and you can do whatever you want if thats what works for you and your situation!
Post # 16
I have 6 ladies standing up for me, and of those I’ve got my sister as a Maid of Honor and my best friend as Matron of Honor. It helps that they’ve got slightly different titles, but I’ve got one sister and a gal that’s just like a sister, and I wanted them to both be recognized.
I say do what you please and just have a short explanation (if you want to) for when folks ask. I don’t think it’s all that odd, it never occurred to me that I couldn’t honor both. 🙂