- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Bee’s please help because i am seriously close to ending up in a Chicago Cell Block Tango situation. So last night I get an invite from Men’s wearhouse for 50% off all of my FI’s groomsmens’ clothes, plus my Fiance gets his own suite free! We are doing a rustic romantic wedding and the outfit that we (FI and I) agreed on. I’ll put a picture at the bottom. So I tell him this yesterday and tell him its smart to get it here. (He’s German and all of his friends live in Germany with him.) He tells me they will all get their outfits in Germany. I am totally fine with this, as long as they get what goes with the wedding. I don’t want one of them showing up at this NON-black tie event in a tux, you know? So, he then proceeds to tell me that they can wear whatever they like because they are spending 2,000EUR on flights to come for the wedding and they hate the outfit and that they are more important then the outfit. I agree to a point. They are very important and I’m glad they found a way to join us….but I’m spending 2,000USD for a photographer and they have to look acceptable in the pictures, right? (not to mention the other 6,500$ that I am paying off with my single mother.) I then ask him how much they can afford….he says 100EUR okay well let me look it up. I find the whole outfit for about 70EUR here in the US with all my coupons. This obviously is still not good enough for him because then he says that I am being COMPLETELY materialistic…and this isn’t what a wedding is supposed to be about (right because the wedding is about YOUR friends….not us right?) and then he goes and does the stupidest thing: “You are SO SO SO SO SELFISH” Girls, I’m about to whoop him at this point.
I guess I can understand that it is important that they dont spend 70euros on an outfit they will wear one day, but there are rental places if they REALLY hate it that much!
Am I being selfish here? Because I want everything to be perfect? I’m only getting married once and I want to be able to have beautiful pictures and memories when we look back at it one day. I thought that maybe because I and my mom are paying for the whole wedding, that maybe I could have my way on this? I mean I don’t know what else I can do to include him. I ask his opinion on EVERYTHING and he usually doesn’t care. Plus I looked up all sorts of German wedding traditions so that I could make it feel like it was about him too. I even told henry it might be a nice idea if your groomsmen gifts are like a nice pair of VANS (because they all wear them) and they can wear them for the wedding. I’m not a picky bride but I don’t want my wedding to look crazy.