Is he stalling or am I overreacting?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t see any issue.  But if you are worried, why not encourage him to take care of a few details now (such as renewing his lisence and SSN).  If he does it without issue, you’ll feel more confident.  If he doesn’t then you two should have a talk to aleviate your fears. 


Post # 3
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You must have a timeline from the builders or contractors for house completion, right? Why don’t you pick a date and location now for a few months after the projected completion?

If you wait any longer, you won’t be able to find a venue, officiant, etc. for this year.

Post # 4
5194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

According to the info on your OP, unless you have any other reason to believe he is stalling that you did not disclose here, I think you are overreacting.  

Still don’t understand why renewing a license and getting a replacement SSN card would need to wait until you move in to the new house.

Post # 5
1634 posts
Bumble bee

I dont see why some of that stuff (license and SSN card) cant be done beforehand. There’s lots of “planning” you can do, and ideas you can discuss without a date set. If he’s willing to talk about it, I dont think you need to be worried. You asked him point blank if this is a stall tactic, and he said no. Unless you have a good reason to believe he’d lie to you, you’re probably overreacting.


Post # 6
582 posts
Busy bee

roser443:  Given your reasons presented,  I don’t see why you can not take care of the marriage before the house.

Post # 7
6 posts

There’s no issue! If he said the wedding doesn’t have to wait, then I suggest don’t wait another second! Sit down together, pick a date, and when the date is done you will be able to focus all of your energy on planning the extra stuff. Don’t let him stall! He loves you! The derailment in March just slowed you down a little bit but now that the house isn’t the problem just go for it!

Post # 8
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

roser443:  If he said it doesn’t have to wait I’d suggest y’all sit down and pick a date and at the very least get your venue/location booked. Our wedding is in March 2015 and a couple of the places we liked were already booked through next summer!

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