(Closed) Is he the guy I married? (long..)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds like your husband is stressed out and unhappy about something in his life that is being projected onto your parents. Are you guys having money trouble? Does he hate his job? If you can find out what he is unhappy about then you can try and find a solution together. If he is normally a good guy then I would give him a pass on this and honestly your parents should too. We are all allowed to have off days. I wouldn’t force him to apologize or see that he is “wrong” as it helps absolutely nothing in the situation except make him more miserable. If he offers to apologize then that is different.

If this is starting to become a trend (6 months or more) of bad behavior then you guys need to get yourself into counseling.

Post # 4
Member
5978 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds like your husband doesn’t think he did anything wrong, and that’s pretty concerning. If my husband ever yelled at any member of my family, that wouldn’t be cool with me. Might I suggest couples counseling for the two of you? I think he needs to learn that he can’t treat your family that way. He has some anger issues if he feels the need to scream at people when things aren’t going exactly the way as planned.

When he’s calmer, maybe you can sit down and have a talk with him about how disrespected your parents now feel and how it’s his job to mend that relationship. Not to mention, what did your mom say 5 years ago that he’s still carrying a grudge over? Something seems a little fishy there and I would try to get to the bottom of it.

Post # 6
Member
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Did this behavior catch you by surprise or does he have bursts of anger like this frequently (and not related to your family)? I know my family would be hurt, like yours, but also extremely worried about my well-being witnessing something like that. Even if he doesn’t get angry like that a lot, that was the last impression they were left with.

Have you spoken to your family since this happened?

Post # 8
Member
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmm. Control issues don’t usually crop up out of nowhere. I’d say either he has been hiding that side of him or something else has been bothering him lately and he isn’t dealing with it properly. Do you think you can talk to him to try and figure out what’s going on? Or is he not open to talking about what happened that weekend?

 

The topic ‘Is he the guy I married? (long..)’ is closed to new replies.

Get our weekly roundup of the best of Weddingbee.
I agree to receive emails from the site. I can withdraw my consent at any time by unsubscribing.

Find Amazing Vendors