(Closed) Is is unreasonable? Am I being a baby?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
    Member
    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, since you mentioned wanting to save that weekend for your own ceremony/ celebration before he chose it. 

    There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to spread yourself too thin, or by wanting your own opportunity to celebrate. I hope you guys can find a solution that works!

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18623 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    When exactly is he having it?  If it’s the same weekend or even a few weeks away, I understand being upset but if it is over a month seperate, I don’t see what the big fuss is about.  You probably won’t have a lot of overlap in guests so it’s not like people will have problems traveling to both weddings.

    Post # 5
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    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    As long as it’s not the same weekend I don’t see a problem with it!

    You get your day and they get theirs!

    I am the MOH in a wedding 4 weeks before mine and she is the MOH in mine and she lives across the country! But it has been so much fun panning together!

    And we have a wedding to attend a week after ours and so we happily postponed our honeymoon!

    I am just as excited for those weddings as i am for mine because they are great friends that should have their special day just as I will have mine!

    I think you will regret not being in your friends wedding because it is close to yours 5 years from now

    Post # 6
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Maybe you should ask first when their date is before freaking out. Don’t wait till you get an invite.

    If it happens to be close the definitely bring up the fact that you “called it” – since you made a point to mention it to them before. By why stress about something that might not even be an issue.

    Post # 7
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If it’s not the same weekend or the week before or after I say it’s not a big deal.  I agree with Camrie, find out when it is before you start freaking out.  Life’s too short to be too upset and miss his ceremony and maybe lose a friend.  But lets face it, if it’s the same weekend, that’s just rude.

    Post # 9
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    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If they’re collecting addresses to send invites, are you sure they aren’t thinking THIS fall, instead of NEXT fall? A year+ in advance is fairly early to collect addresses!

    If it’s for sure 2011 though, maybe you could indirectly remind him of your own upcoming ceremony; something like “Woah, we are gonna rock the wedding world next fall – your wedding and mine so close together!”

    Post # 10
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    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with some of the other posters… if it’s the same weekend, I’d be seriously irked, and I wouldn’t wait to bring it up.  But if it’s not the same weekend, I don’t see a problem.  Couples get a weekend for their wedding, not a month or a season.  I have three weddings to go to around my own this year… one six weeks out, one five, and one the weekend after.  It didn’t bother me in the slightest!

    BUT, if it’s the same weekend, that’s inconsiderate and, frankly, disrespectful, and I’d say something.  Good luck!

    Post # 12
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    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m standing up in a wedding a couple of weeks before my own, and I am looking at it as a great chance to focus on someone else’s wedding rather than my own. It’s only one day that I have to set my wedding aside.

    How cool if you can help each other out as you plan at the same time!

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