Post # 1
My husband and I are planning to start TTC in November/December of this year. I’ve been at my current job for 3 years and am getting quite sick of it. It’s full-time and salaried, but I’ve been looking for an upgrade for about 4-5 months. I recently started getting interviews, but it occurred to me that given how we’re approaching our time to TTC, should I really be making a change? Will an employer be resentful if (best case scenario, for us) I announce a pregnancy just a year after getting hired?
Part of me thinks that I should just carry on with my life and plans for a new job as I obviously have no way of knowing what could change between now and November, or how long it could take to actually conceive once we start trying. Like, I shouldn’t put my life on hold for something so far away.
But part of me thinks that my work situation right now is pretty tolerable and given my best-case scenario of being on mat leave in less than 18 months, I should just stick it out.
So what would you do? And if my interviews this week don’t pan out, at what point (approaching the time to TTC) would you call-off the job hunt until after mat leave ends? Like, not until you’re actually pregnant or…?
Sorry, I have a history of being way too neurotic. Help?
Post # 2
Keep looking. There’s nothing wrong with announcing a pregnancy to your employer after one year of employment. However, some companies don’t extend full maternity leave benefits to women who haven’t been with the company for a certain number of years. So keep that in mind.
Post # 3
Definitely keep hunting now. You might want to read Lean In, it talks a bit about how for women who have to or want to work after having children it really helps to want to go back to work (that is, to like the job). If you get a new job now you would still get a year in before birth even if you got pregnant in your first cycle so you would qualify for FMLA if you are in the US and the company falls under it. Personally if I were still at the job and got pregnant I would probably stop looking, assuming I had any type of maternity benefits, but plenty of women do start new jobs while pregnant.
Post # 4
TaurianDoll: Thanks! Usually, my inclination is to keep looking for a couple more months at least. Since I live in Ontario, maternity leave is guarenteed to me provided I am working full-time for 3 months up to a due date. My understanding is that while some Canadian companies provide some extended maternity benefits over the government-issued stuff, but since my current company is so small I don’t believe they offer anything as it stands.
Post # 5
anonybee0810: oh! Then you’re set! Take it from me: there’s nothing worse than being pregnant, hormonal, and hating your job. At that point, it’s too late to go anywhere. So definitely keep looking now. Good luck on the job hunt.
Post # 6
I would keep looking, I quit my job(mind you it was min. wage also in ontario), We plan to TTC right after our wedding in August and I’m applying for new jobs right now.
Post # 7
Any employer who hires you and finds out you are preg shortly after will look down on you for not telling them and for looking like you wanted their insurance.
I would either stick in your new job until after you have the baby and then swtich jobs
Switch jobs now and wait a year TTC.
I am in the EXACT same boat. I ultimately decided to stay at my job and TTC. After I have a baby, I will THEN look for a new job 🙂
Post # 8
anonybee0810: I say keep looking for a new job. If you are not happy at your current job, then it can become very stressful when TTC or when you become pregnant. And adding more stress to the situation is never good. If I were in the same position, I would keep looking, as you never know what might be out there. Just keep the door open, and perhaps you will find your dream job, or a job that is very family friendly!
Post # 9
Last year I was miserable at my job and started looking for a new job knowing that I wanted to TTC.
I knew I had to be at my job at least 1 year (including pregnancy) to be pretected under FMLA. We started TTC after about 4 months at my current job so that the earliest the baby would be born was 1 year and 1 month from my start date. The way it worked out, I will be at my job about 1 year, 3 months by the time I deliver.
Keep looking for a new job and don’t let your TTC timeline interfear.
Post # 10
I’m in Australia and had the same dilemma as you at the end of last year. I knew we’d start trying December 2014 – March 2015, I’d been at my job for over 6 years and I had a certain pressure to find a new job within a certain timeframe, otherwise I wouldn’t be applicable for ‘maternity leave + keeping job at the end of it’.
I wouldn’t get a new job within about 8 months prior to TTC just because it really doesn’t look good if you start a new professional job and get pregnant soon after and just leave.
Post # 11
I think it depends on where you are and what your state laws are regarding maternity leave and paid family leave. In CA you have to have been at a company for at least a year to be able to use FMLA/PFL (that protects your job and pays you out at disabilty rate for 6 additional weeks on top of the 6 week disability leave). If you do get a new job and get pregnant soon after your boss cant hold it against you or retaliate/fire you, but they can if you stay out longer than the 6 weeks allowed without FMLA protection.
Post # 12
yellow7404: I think I’ve pretty much decided to follow your example and wait it out until after mat leave ends. My job is pretty tolerable and I don’t I’ll have it so easy being at the bottom of the foodchain elsewhere (in regards to lots of accrued vacation time and seniority). Thanks!
amyinbrisbane: That’s what I was concerned about (re: not looking professional by bailing so soon). The job I was offered actually required a 2 year contracted commitment with the heavy implication that I would be expected to stay a minimum of 5 years. I’m relatively young (almost 27) but I can’t fathom putting off TTC for 5 years.
naangel55: We have it a bit easier in Ontario; you only have to be employed full-time for the three months up to your delivery date. Regardless, I’ve pretty much decided to stick it out. Thanks!
Post # 13
anonybee0810: Go for it. I just interviewed for a new job and got a verbal job offer this week. I’m getting married this fall and will start trying after that. You’re pregnant for 9 months, so thats lots of time to establish yourself!
Post # 14
I started TTC and job hunt simultaneously. Nothing wrong with that. You won’t know how long it will take for TTC to be successful. You can’t put your career aspirations on hold for that. Besides, you might start feeling frustrated and agitated at your current job if you are wanting to leave but can’t. That will stress you out which will affect your TTC and your professional life.