Post # 1
to feel mad that all of your bridesmaids can’t make your Shower and party, even if they live out of state?
I have a total of 3 ppl that live out of state that are in my wedding. Only one has helped with planning, she’s one of my maids and she’s flying up. Am I so bad that I’m upset that the other two aren’t coming up?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
None of my bridesmaids — for one reason or another — were able to attend what was *technically* my bachelorette party (still need to blog about this!). In anticipation of this, we’d gone out to dinner the evening after the shower. I wasn’t mad, because I knew everyone had totally legitimate reasons for being unable to attend. But I definitely missed them. I have to say, though, it’s made me all the more excited for the wedding — to have EVERYONE together for one entire day!
Post # 4
This is the place to vent that you feel bad…and I totally get it. It’s not wrong, it’s natural to feel that way. But don’t let it ruin your party.
A similar thing happened to me. And I do think that it makes the people who do make the effort that much more special. At some point I decided to let it go and just really appreciate the stuff people who were there for me were doing. And some of my friends and family were just amazing!
Post # 5
I was in a similar situation and I did get my feelings hurt for the same reason. But in retrospect, it wasnt that big a deal and it certainly wasnt maleficent or their fault. Just keep looking forward to the fun.
Post # 6
I can understand feeling disappointed– I am in the same situation. But I also know they would come if they could. I know you can’t change how you feel, but maybe it would help to focus on the positive and plan something for right before the wedding that you CAN share.
Post # 7
I totally understand feeling disappointed. My best friend wasn’t able to make my shower because she lives out of state. Like Bruschetta, I tried to look at the bright side and focus on how exciting it was going to be when I finally did see her. Also, during the shower, while I was opening the gift from my BM (they got me a charm bracelet with special charms from each gal), we called my best friend and put her on speaker phone. That made me feel like she was right there with me. Maybe you could call your friends?
Post # 8
I’d be disappointed that we couldn’t all get together, but I’d try to make other plans either as a group or individually. Everyone has such busy schedules it’s so hard to accomodate everyone! It doesn’t mean they want to celebrate any less.
Post # 9
Only 1/2 of my bridesmaids made my shower. It’s suboptimal, but it’s real life… Try not to take it to heart! Seems like they have a pretty legit reason for not being there.
Post # 10
I don’t know if I would be upset with BMs who couldn’t make bridal showers. In my case, I knew full well not to expect all of them to show up because we all work in hospitals or are in other cities. One of my BMs is my cousin who lives in the Philippines so really I can’t be upset about this. But yes, there are way too many other things to worry about, breathe, and enjoy the company of those who can make it.
Post # 11
I would be sad for sure. They are my bridesmaids because I love them! But I would not be mad. Life cannot always go the way I want it to!
Post # 12
I think it’s fine to feel upset. Bridesmaids are the hosts of the shower so a good compromise would be to reschedule it to a time when they can all attend if that means having it the day before the wedding. If that isn’t possible either, then you make best of the situation. Either way, they will be there in spirit even if they aren’t able to show up.
Post # 13
I understand I think I would be a little disappointed but I would understand since they are out of state. Maybe you can meet them somewhere for a mini-shower with just them or a girls outing.
Post # 14
Well. Money is tight for a lot of people these days and its hard not to jump to conclusions, but a lot of them probably just can’t afford it.
Post # 15
I understand that it makes you sad-I have one OOT BM-I’m disappointed that she can’t make the first get together for everyone to meet-but they all have lives too. They can’t just drop everything to make it to everything you want for the wedding. You just have to be happy for what they do come up for. As long as they come up for the rehearsal & wedding be happy for what they can do.