- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I am from Chicago and getting married in Nashville this September. I have a large family back in Chicago that I know not all will be able to make the treck to Nashville for the actual wedding.
My mother wants to host a gathering for us in my home town. Most of my Chicago family and friends have only met my FI once or twice. Orginally it was going to be a couples shower but we started talking about who will eventually make the final cut for the guest list to the Nashville wedding compared to the shower guest list. Our lists didnt match up. (Parents are helping pay for wedding but FI and I are paying for most of it) I think what my mother would like to do is make this almost a hometown recpetion so she can invite those extended relatives that she feels should be invited to actual wedding.
Since I am almost positive that these extended relatives wont come should I send them a wedding invite anyway so we can just call this thing a shower? I think if anyone felt obligated to travel to Nashville the shower would probably make them feel better if they didnt have the money to go.
Whatever we decide to call this event is it in poor taste to invite someone to the local gathering but not send them an invitation to the Nashville wedding? (I think I know the answer is yes.)
Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you handle it?