Post # 1
Is the spending of tens of thousands of dollars on a single day really worth it? I’m just so fed up with how much it’s going to cost. We’re still in school, so we’re also having to just guess how much we’ll have saved by the wedding date. And it’s just an insane amount that it’s going to cost. Our budget is $15000 because that’s what it costs to have a wedding in SC nowadays. And I’m not talking a sit down dinner with escort cards and the best dress or anything.. I’m talking buying a used dress, with a buffet for $22 a person, and scrimping on nearly everything. UGH! I’m just so fed up! I want to just call it quits and elope. But I know eloping is not the answer. Especially since I need to stay in my parents’ health insurance, (Stupid pre-existing condition) and since I’m one of those girls who has dreamt of her wedding day since she was practically born. Sorry if I sound out there.. I’m just venting a bit.
Post # 3
I’m sorry that you are so frustrated. We’re not spending nearly as much as you, but yeah, it all adds up. (((hugs)))
Post # 4
I think you sound pretty normal to me. I think a lot of us have had those thoughts. I’ll be honest, at around 3 months before my wedding, I wondered what the hell we were doing. I genuinely had a freak out where I thought we were insane for spending so much money. Most of it wasn’t even ours, I felt guilty! In the end everything worked out, I’m glad we had that experience but I’d never do it again! Eloping solves the money problem, but you don’t get to experience the rest with your family and friends. I think that’s what you have to keep telling yourself to survive!
Post # 5
Are you having a lot of people? That sounds like a high amount for what you are doing.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
It’s worth it!!! I promise…I think we’ve all had these moments but honestly, there is nothing like the feeling on your wedding day, with all your family and friends there to support you and getting to kick back and enjoy an awesome party after you marry the man you love…You’ll get through it and it will definitely be worth it all in the end!
Post # 7
You are not alone! It’s absolutely amazing that adding the word “wedding” to anything sky rockets the price! I’d advise taking a minute to look at your expense and re-evaluating what’s most important. See if there is anything that you can do without. It’s so easy to get caught up in the wedding hype that you end up spending money on things that no one will even notice. And always remember that at the end of the day, it’s about you and your fiancé – not impressing everyone that will be in attendance. Your day will be perfect because it’s the day that you marry your soul mate, not because of your centerpieces. Good luck!
Post # 8
When I had my moment about spending so much, my now-husband asked me point blank if in 10, 15, 20, or 30 years ago I would regret my decision or if I would look fondly back at my wedding.
Post # 9
Are you having a lot of people? That sounds like a high amount for what you are doing. Do you have your “ideal place”? Have you already put down deposits?
Post # 10
My FW and I have had a long engagement, and it looks like you are having one as well. When we got engaged, we made a list of each month between engagement and wedding, and planned expenses for each month. There are lots of things you can spread out into payments, and you have lots of time. I’m a teacher, and thus am poor as hell, but by working together and really planning (we haven’t eated at a restaurant in 6 months!) we have been able to purchase the wedding junk we wanted, with a few compromises.
Many good wishes to you, and happy planning! It will be okay!
Post # 11
Let it out! Sometimes it’s good to vent! I too get sooo frustrated about how much everyhting cost!
Post # 12
We’re having at most 100 people. probably more like 85ish. And we don’t have an “ideal” location. We just shopped around and found one for a good deal that was nice too.
And believe me.. we’ve slashed things already. But neither of us wants things to be “cheap” looking.. Even though we’re having silk flowers for the bouquets and flowerless centerpieces.
I think it’s also because we BOTH have expensive tastes. lol.
I just hate the wedding industry..
Post # 13
I know exactly how you feel…. in fact I have been questioning almost every decision made thus far. We have already spent A LOT of money and are 6 months away. I sometimes think maybe we should have just done a destination wedding with immediate family and 2-4 VERY CLOSE friends. With the amount of money we’re spending we could have flown people out and paid for accomodations. But then I think of how exciting and wonderful the day will be with many longtime friends and extended family and think it will all be worth it. Right now, there are some “extras” I’m holding off one since our venue & caterer alone is over $16K already. Not to mention everything else… So, I’m trying to make wise decisions and not worry about too many “small” details no one will notice.