Post # 1
My SO and I are attending a wedding this weekend and my SO is a groomsman. We have been super busy and haven’t had time to go get them a wedding present yet. I was planning on just getting a card and putting cash in it, since I know most people prefer cash anyways, but when I told my mom, she said we needed to get them an actual gift because SO is a groomsman. I have never heard this before, but I’ve also never been in this position before so I have no idea what to do!
What do you bees think? Is is ok if we just get them a card and put cash in it, even though SO is part of the wedding party? Or should I just try to find time to get them a gift off their registry between now and Saturday? We were planning on giving them $100 from the two of us. I normally wouldn’t put so much thought into it, but the bride is kind of a stickler for etiquette and is a friend of mine.
Post # 3
I think it is perfectly acceptable!! People appreciate cash more, almost, because they get to choose what to spend it on!!
I plan on giving cash when I am in my best friends wedding this summer, and also gave cash last summer to another friend who I was a bridesmaid for!
Don’t listen to your mom, it sounds like that might be an old school rule, and this is modern times! LOL
Post # 4
@LilliePad: No– cash gifts are totally fine. However, when my FI is in the bridal party he does always get a gift because he feels weird giving his friend’s money. I have no problem– it is what they want.
Post # 5
It’s perfectly fine. In most cases, it’s preferred.
Post # 6
Cash is a completely acceptable gift. What your mom is referring to might be something they used to do at the time when she got married. I wouldn’t worry about it too much, I think majority of people give cash these days!
Post # 7
I agree cash gifts are perfectly fine. I would prefer them if it was my wedding! I was a BM in a wedding last year and we put a $100 bill in the card as our gift and didnt think twice about it until now lol.
Post # 8
Cash is great. They can spend it (or save it) for what they want!
Post # 9
YES! and if they are leaving right away on their HM they will appreciate the cash. If you can… it’s just a suggestion, but give them a few $5.00’s and singles so they can tip people along the way. Seriously that eats up some money.
Post # 10
Not one of my bridal party gave a gift. They all gave cards w money and one gave a bed bath and beyond gift card because even though we didnt register, we did find a china set at BB&B that we want to purchase w wedding money and gift cards:)
Post # 11
Cash is awesome! As a bride myself, I know some of our closest friends/bridal party have already told us they would be giving us cash. Totally acceptable.
Post # 12
Cash is completely acceptable!! I mean who doesn’t love cash right?
Post # 13
Ok, thanks so much guys. I feel a lot better now! I know most people do prefer cash from most of their guests, and I always give cash when I’m going to a wedding that I am not in.
Cash it is!
Post # 14
Cash is totally fine to give, even for the wedding party. It’s always my standby gift if I don’t have time to buy off the couple’s registry.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I think cold hard moolah is always welcome! ^^ lol
Have fun at the wedding!