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No it's not bad to skip them. If you want to give something, the pictures afterward should be fine.
P.S. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding and his parents are paying for the RD and morning-after brunch. We are paying for invitations, gown, suit, rings and honeymoon.
If your parents are paying, I think that you should give them something. It doesn't have to be an expensive gift. Just something heartfelt and meaningful.
Well my parents are helping a lot with the wedding so I feel its necessary for me to get a gift of thanks. I'm not getting anything expensive, just something meaningful to show my appreciation. When we get our photo's we'll put them in a frame for our parents as well. I don't think you HAVE to get them a gift. Maybe just a letter would be nice.
I think that the photo albums are a great gift! But you may want to give them something at the rehearsal dinner just to show your thanks and appreciaton. It doesnt have to be big, but since they wont get the photo albums for a few weeks it might be nice to give them something to show them your gratitude while the wedding is going on.
I'm gifting MOB and MOG beautiful frames with the intention to give them a beautiful photo of us to put in the frame, so it's not that the gift has to be BIG.
Personally, I dont think its "necessary" to gift parents, esp since you are giving them a nice photo later ( i think thats what parents really want anyway) while it isw= nice if you have the extra $$, but if you don't, your parents won't be upset b/c they didn't get anything.
My parents are getting pictures. We def did not have the extra money to gift our parents during the wedding festivities.
Just my personal two cents, I'd give them something, even if it's small and didn't cost you anything. There are so many DIY options out there, and I think they'd really appreciate it.
maybe you could just write them a nice thank you note saying that the photo album is coming, because they are paying for things so i think it would be nice if they did get a gift, but it makes sense to why they can't have it now.
Can you buy the empty photo album in advance? That's what my FI & I are doing, I'm probably going to get the "Our Children's Wedding" type photo albums & a card that says we'll fill it with pics after the wedding.
For me, it's important that I give them something before the wedding. My parents have done SO much for me and my brother, and a token of that is symbolic of how much I appreciate everything they've done. Even a thank you note would be nice.
Thanks for all of the good advice, bees! I'm thinking that we will give them something for all that they have done - both sets. We are having a DW so perhaps a nice, coffee table book on the destination city (it's historic, beautiful, etc.) would work. We could write a nice thank-you/inscription in the inside cover and they could have the books for keepsakes. And of course, we'll give them the pictures, etc. later as mentioned previously.
If they are paying I think they should get a gift. I am getting mom a pashmina, and probably gifting them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant at home and/or a stay out for the weekend (that's what I am hoping for)...
I really love the idea to give them a book about the city. That's very cute. I might have to steal that one--give our parents a book about the college where FI & I met...or maybe even some other book since we are getting married at a library.
Another option would be if you got engagement photos taken, you could give them a book of pics from that. My FI and I did that for our parents for Christmas gifts & they absolutely loved them! I think I've given my mom a pic or album with pics of me for every holiday for the last 10 years (the gift that keeps on giving!), but his mom didn't have many pics of him (and none of me) so she really appreciated it.
@moneypenny2... GREAT idea re: the engagement pictures. We already had some taken by our same wedding photographer and it never dawned on me to give them some of those prints. Thank you!!! If we did that and paired them with the book... well, I think that would be an awesome gift! What a relief to have this thing figured out!
I think a gift before the wedding is nice bc it implies you don't care how the wedding actually goes, just that you really appreciate all their help so far. We gave our parents framed photos of the area from a local gallery. We'll be doing wedding albums for them for Xmas this year I think. Sounds like you are thinking of something similar, I'm sure they'll love it!
My parents laughed at this idea when they saw it included in the standard budget The Knot generates. They flat out told me not to get them something.
That said, I agree with the sentiment of the Bees and think something small that just says thank you makes sense. I think I will just write a long letter in my own handwriting about how much their support means, even if my life doesn't look like what they would have wanted for me (I'm totally secular, lived with FI for years, not planning children for a while, etc.).
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Is it bad if we don't give our parents gifts at our wedding/rehearsal? We do not have bridesmaids nor groomsmen, ushers, etc. We do have a flower girl and a ring bearer and plan to give each of them a gift on rehearsal night (a toy) but that is it as far as gifts go. I definitely don't think our parents expect anything but when I read other posts about gifts for POB and POG, I start to wonder.
We are going to get all of our wedding photos digitally so I'm planning to make both sets of parents a coffee table book from Snapfish, out of the photos. And we will be giving them some photo prints, as well. But these will all be after the wedding naturally.