Post # 1
I use to be obsessed with wanting the perfect wedding. Ive had the same vision since I was a little girl, a winter wonderland wedding. My parents have always told me they would pay for my wedding, but of course with them paying for the wedding comes A LOT of input from them. “Well I think I should do the flowers” says mom “and I think I should build that for you” says dad. It use to irritate me because it wasn’t my vision, but now I could care less….all that matters to me now is not what type of flute glasses I drink out of, but that at the end of that day I got to marry my dream man. Maybe this is just a faze and in a month I’ll resent the fact that they have had so much input, but for the moment Im content with just putting in my “Oh, I like that” or “Na, not so much”. Am I crazy for not caring about my wedding so much? I mean this is every girls DREAM day….
Thanks for reading :}
Post # 3
It sounds like you’re no longer in fantasy land and in reality now… which is an EXCELLENT thing since a lot of brides will have unrealistic expectations. I think society and media puts weddings in that light; frankly having a great marriage is more important than a dream day.
Post # 4
I have NEVER cared that much.
I don’t have a dream day, I have a dream life.
Post # 5
No it’s perfectly fine to not care.. There are some women who have dreamed about their wedding day for years and years. I have never done that. I am perfectly happy to go to the court house and then go on a fabulous honeymoon. If you do decide to have a wedding, just make sure it’s what you want and your vision is realized. Good Luck!
Post # 6
This is totally normal! Honestly, the most important part of your wedding should be the marriage. If your parents are planning a lot of it, as long as the party reflects you and your FI you’re fine. Just don’t let them do anything you don’t want them to do. It doesn’t matter who thought it up- it matters if they at least ask what you like, even if you’re not at the forefront of the planning.
Post # 7
Thanks for your responses ladies! I agree with all of you and thank you for all of the support!
Post # 8
yeappp.. i am at that point too.. i think is normal.. it is def ok to not care about the little details.. cause in the end what matters is who you marry 🙂
Post # 9
@lstyle25: Agreed! (at that point now myself)
Post # 10
My SIL was the same way. Everytime I asked her what this was going to be, and what that was going to look like, she just said, “Oh, I don’t care. Whatever you want to do.” At times it was frustrating because I didn’t want to be responsible for not making her dream wedding, but finally I realized to her it was what is after the wedding that mattered. It was kind of like the wedding was just a formality and somthingto get over with haha
Post # 11
No, you have realized what is important to you. I agree with you because I personally dont care either. My FI is more involved than I am. If he asked me to do something I will but I could care less. I am in a small group who never had thoughts of a wedding as a little girl it never cross my mind.
So for me it is whatever lets just get this shit over with. hahaha It might sound bad but with me I dont like an audience, nor do I like to be on display, I am dreading it . I love my FI and having a wedding means the world to him and I am going through all of this for him.
If I could marry him with a pastor with no one there I would be happy because I cant imagine my life without him. This wedding stuff is so frustrating.
Post # 12
I was just going to post this same thing…
I don’t really have a dream day… I just want it overwith. I am so mad at myself for not eloping years ago.
i have under 6 months left and SOOOOO much left to do. And I really can’t care about any of it. It’ll all work out somehow so w/e. Its just nothing but a hassle.People are trying to make me nervous about all i should have done months ago and I’m just like -yea thats okay – it’ll be fine. no biggie. But I’m the only one doing any of it so its not like i have my family or friends thatll pick for me. If i don’t do it – it won’t get done. And i HATE doing it, i don’t want to do it, so i don’t. I wish someone would just do it for me but its not like i can afford a planner.
I honestly just want the wife status – stick the ring on our fingers and lets get it over with. Why sit around worrying about what type of flower is where. i just don’t get it.
Post # 13
“I have NEVER cared that much.
I don’t have a dream day, I have a dream life.”
Love this comment!
Post # 14
I think most everyone gets there at some point. It’s healthy! As long as you don’t let any big choices be pushed on you that you will regret (like changing your theme or something), I think you willl appreciate the help when you look back.
Post # 15
Yup I’m in the same boat. I don’t really give a shit about the wedding. I just want to marry my best friend and have a fun day with my family.
Do whatever you want to do, enjoy your day, dont get tied up in all the bs that surrounds a wedding.
Post # 16
@DancingDiva: I’m sure it will all turn out beautifully . We all go through that dreaming of our “perfect” wedding but in all reality perfect isn’t feasable. If your parents are paying and willing to help you plan i say go for it unless they push your boundaries cause some of us dont have that kind of help 🙁