Post # 1
Okay so right now my boyfriend isn’t in a great financial situation and we are planning on getting married next summer but he didn’t get me an engagement ring nor do I mind… I just dont think it’s very important. But I’m afraid everyone is going to judge him for not getting me one (like my family) or judge both of us as cheap or something. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
@_adrisabel: You definitely don’t need a ring to be engaged, just the agreement to get married. The ring is just a symbol of engagement. My mom did not have an engagement ring and was never bothered by it from other people, but then again that was in 1980 when people probably paid less attention to these things.
Post # 4
you could just get stand in rings till you can afford whatever you want.
amazon has a ton of stuff and super cheap.
Post # 5
@_adrisabel: If you are both fine with you not having an ering yet, that’s all that matters! People will judge regardless- ring, no ring, ring too big/too small, diamond vs non-diamond… all that matters is your and FI’s opinions:)
Post # 6
@_adrisabel: you say you don’t mind… but you are scared that others that judge you… which means that you do mind.
I think that if this does not bother you, it is nobody else’s business.
Post # 7
It doesn’t matter as long as you are OK with it. Who cares what other people think? I think its wonderful you are supporting your man, rather than asking him for a rock. A ring is just symbolic. I read how modern day people get pets to show their long term commitment than rings. Times have changed. Do what works for y’all. And those who judge – its none of their business.
Post # 8
@_adrisabel: While the ring is a physical symbol of the agreement you two have made, it’s the agreement, the intent, and the emotion that matters. Congrats!
Post # 9
I would totally get a Stand in ring that looks similar to what you want so you can get used to it and be able to show people! You can get silver cz rings on ebay or even berricle for pretty cheap! berricle is a little pricey maybe like $40-60 but they are sterling silver and super well made! You could even use one as the actual e ring who says it has to be gold and diamonds?!
Post # 10
Dont worry, I have been engaged for over 12 months and don’t have an enagement ring either. Fingers crossed it will be some time this year. Stupid money troubles.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
You don’t need one, but you will get questions. I’d do as others have suggested and get something cheap to stand in. I hate explaining myself to others.
Post # 12
@carlypaige: + 1
Other than amazon there’s berricle, qvc, hsn, jtv, shopnbc, khols, etc. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. No ring, stand in, whatever makes your hotdog stand as my DH would say.
Post # 13
@_adrisabel: What matters most is what you and your FI want. I think it’s totally ok to not have a ring.
Post # 14
@_adrisabel: I don’t have an e-ring either, and we’ve been married for almost a year. NBD.
Post # 15
I don’t have an engagement ring. They don’t suit me or my lifestyle (I’m a drummer) so I went straight for a wedding band. I now have an eternity ring which I love but it never occurred to me that anyone would be judgemental about my lack of an engagement ring either because it isn’t something my friends and family would consider!
If you are getting unhelpful comments then you’ve got a choice. Politely ask if the judgemental person meant to be that rude OR get a cheap and pretty stand-in ring. Personally I’d go for the first option since it is nobody’s business but yours and your FI!
Post # 16
The biggest lesson I learned last year: Life is too short to worry about what others think of you. If it’s not important for you to have a ring, don’t buy a ring—not even a stand-in. Congratulations on your engagement! 🙂