(Closed) Is it bad…that I pretty much registered myself?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My husband was very opinionated when it came to registering, so he came along. But I have friends who either did it alone or had their mom’s come to help instead of their fi. I think it’s fine, especially if he can just look at it online to make sure he doesn’t hate anything. And if he does hate something, it’s really his own fault for not going.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I did the same thing.  My FI is in Korea right now so my mom and I went to the stores and helped me pick out everything to register.  It would have been nice to do together but I think its something that needs to be done so that if guests want to buy a gift for you they have a variety things to choose from at different price ranges.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

FI came with me to register, but really had no opinion. He spent most of the time wondering around and just randomly picking when I was stuck between 2 things. He just isn’t interested in the cooking stuff because he’ll make do with anything and the rest of the things inside the house just don’t matter to him. Every now and then he’ll ask if we can add something and I’ll add it, but he really doesn’t care a whole lot. lol

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

you ran it past him? what did he say? if he was fine with it, then fine. if not…ummm…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As long as he wasn’t upset by it, it’s fine.

When we went, FI only wanted a couple of things – 3 ‘house type’ things and when we were at Target he was pretty excited that I told him video and board games and movies were cool to register for.  We had decided our ‘rule’ would be it had to be stuff we could use together. 

So he added a few things there.  For everything else, we went with what I wanted or thought we needed.  When I updated heavily at home online, I showed him, but he really wasn’t all that interested.

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I asked FI if he wanted to register with me and he said he would if I wanted but that he trusted my taste and I could just go ahead and choose stuff.
We have very similar taste so I think that’s why it wasn’t an issue for us.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I did our registries online. I keep asking my FI to add what he wants and he doesn’t do it. I don’t think it’s a big deal if he’s really not interested.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I asked FI if he wanted to register with me and he said he would if I wanted but that he trusted my taste and I could just go ahead and choose stuff.
We have very similar taste so I think that’s why it wasn’t an issue for us.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I tried to include the dude in registering. He had literally no interest. He only asked that I don’t register for anything too “ruffly” or “girly.”

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

DH came with me for moral support but I made the list and chose everything. As you can see from some of the PP most guys weren’t really that involved in registering.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

FI went with me to the stores, but really didn’t care about much. I pretty much picked our entire registry, with a few things we did together (dish set, silverware, pots/pans). I’ve been adding and modifying it here and there, and he has no interest. He doesn’t cook, so any kitchen things are up to me.

Now, if I allowed him to register at Lowes, it would be a different story.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Almost all of our registry is kitchen stuff, which means it has no effect on him. He didn’t care and was happy picking out a couple of glass pitchers and some drinking glasses that he liked. I like that he’s ok with pretty much anything, but when he has an opinion, it will be super strong. That can be annoying if I don’t agree with it 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If he is ok with you registering then thats fine. I would think this should be  a joint decision. I personally dont like the idea of registries and didnt want to register, thankfully FI felt the same way

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