Post # 1
I have never heard of doing this, but FI thinks we should get gifts for both of our parents as a “thank you” for all your help and support. Maybe I am completely in left field, but I don’t think it’s necessary. I was planning on making a dinner for just us and our parents at our house when we got home from the honeymoon to kind of reflect on the wedding and thank them at that point. Are actual gifts necessary? What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I think it depends on the relationship you have with both of your parents.
We paid for the majority of our wedding ourselves, but my parents helped with my gown and flowers and his parents took care of the rehearsal dinner. He made his parents a photo book of our Charleston home/area (they hadn’t been down to see it for themselves at that point). I made my parents a scrapbook of pictures of me growing up, thanking them both for getting me to this point in my life.
I think both sets of parents appreciated those sentimental thank-yous more than anything we could have ever purchased for them. It’s all about what your relationship with your folks is…
Post # 4
It is proper to get them a gift if they financially helped. Tradition is a framed picture of you and them on the wedding day. Parents gifts are usually given after the wedding and not like BM’s and GM’s gifts which are traditionally given at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We are giving our parents gifts even though they are not contributing financially. We got each mom a handkerchief with a poem on it and probably some jewelry. I think are going to get my soon-to-be FIL season tickets to the red wings.
Post # 6
I like the idea of a sentimental gift. Especially the framed picture from the wedding. Great idea. I know both moms would LOVE that. So then I could disperse these at the dinner I want to have with them when we get back from the honeymoon.
Post # 7
I’m sure that it isn’t necessary… but many married couples I know gave their parents gifts following the wedding. We’ll definitely give some kind of present to our parents.
Post # 8
My parents actually told me to please not get them a gift. But I think we will do a photo book for both parents and perhaps a framed photo of us with each of them.
Post # 9
So should the parent gifts be given at the rehearsal dinner? I thought so, but I bet mtwitter knows more about wedding etiquette than I do….any other input?
Post # 10
We will be making our parents albums and giving those to them. Also I am going to get some prints made of some of the pictures from our wedding and have them framed for them.
Post # 11
Our parents gave money to us to help put on the wedding, so we felt it was only right to get them a little something for the help. We didn’t go overboard, we went more for the “emotional” type gift & it was well received and appreciated.
Post # 12
I’d say it is becoming more common in the last handfull of years. My parents (and DH’s) had never heard of getting the parents gifts but they all LOVED the photo canvases we got them (with whatever wedding photo they wanted). They really appreciated us thinking of them and recognizing what they had done to get both DH and I to where we are today.
Post # 13
Our parents will be paying for the entire wedding, and they’ve also been so warm and gracious in welcoming their new son/daughter-in-law into the family. So I really want to get them something special to acknowledge this and express our appreciation.
Post # 14
We were thinking about getting each mother a pandora bracelet and my FIL a bottle of Johnny Walker blue since he’s a big scotch drinker. Not sure about my dad yet though.
And then for Christmas we will give them each their own coffee table book of the wedding.