Post # 1
To refer to someone as your wife/husband when not yet married? My cousin was just engaged in early December to a man she had only been dating since the summer. Prior to that they kept calling each other wife and husband. So much so that it irritates a lot of people. I say that title should only be reserved for after the even happens, not before. Someone told me it is bad luck to do that, since so much can happen prior to the wedding.
Post # 3
I have never heard that it is considered bad luck. I would be curious to find out what others think. I agree with you that you should call your SO husband/wife only after the event happened and not before.
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of it as a superstition, but the title should be reserve for when its official.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
It really irritates me when people use husband/wife before they are actually married. I wouldn’t consider it bad luck, just obnoxious.
Post # 6
My husband has called me wifey for years… I don’t think it’s a big deal, I don’t think it’s bad luck, and I wouldn’t find it offensive. Titles are just that, titles thatmwe give each other.
Post # 7
A friend told me not to address any wedding gifts given before the wedding to Mrs. Husbandslastname because it is bad luck. I don’t think it’s worth anyone’s time to give a second thought to what members of a couple call each other as long as it isn’t a slur or something.
Post # 8
Like others, I don’t know if it’s bad luck, but it sure seems irritating.
Post # 9
I don’t know if it’s bad luck, but I think it’s so embarrassing when people do that!
Post # 10
Not necessarily bad luck, but a little annoying.
I have a friend from college who I assumed got married because she changed her last name to her SO’s and changed her status to married… several years and one kid later, she’s posting all these desperate statuses about “how to get him to commit”…
Come to think of it, maybe it is bad luck.
Post # 11
@brendaray2009: I think its funny how many people find it annoying. I personally hate the word fiance and just call him my husband. He calls me his wife. Though with us its kind of a necessity to gain respect if we are opening accounts. We are young and a lot of people will barely look at us unless we say we are married. To people I actually know I dot refer to him as my husband. I just say his name. I dont think its bad luck or insulting in any way
Post # 12
I never got that… Why would you call someone who isn’t your husband your husband?
Is that the adult equivalent of pretending that you’ve had sex in high school?
Post # 13
@Little_Hedgy: Yeah, us to, although I don’t really do it in public. I think it’s a pretty funny thing to get annoyed about–I mean, it doesn’t really affect other people in any way, and it’s not like I’m demanding that they call him anything in particular.
Post # 14
@jdhall89: how would people even know to get annoyed? Lol Its a funny thing to get your panties in a bunch about. Its really hard for me to be respected as someone in a relationship unless the word husband is brought up.I think because I look so young if I say im engaged people look at each other all self indulgently and want to pat my head.
Post # 15
@Little_Hedgy: I agree, fi has referred to me as wifey a few times, his family always introduce me to people as his wife to be. Legally, we are common law married because we’ve lived together for a year already. Seems silly to get all huffy over something so trivial.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s bad luck, but I do think it’s weird