Post # 1
My mom is stressing because she thinks it’s rude for us not to be providing our out-of-town guests with shuttle transportation to our ceremony/reception site….honestly this had never even crossed my mind, and neither FI nor I think it’s needed. Just wondered if I’m way off base on this and we should in fact be providing it…? (My mom’s concern is that people will see it as incredibly impolite if they have to drive on their own, because all of the recent weddings she’s been to have had shuttles.)
Here are our details:
— 50-60 out-of-town guests; some will rent cars but no clue how many.
— Ceremony and reception are at same place, a park that is 10 miles on the freeway or 7 miles on surface roads (15-minute drive) from the hotel. (No toll bridges involved.) Also near a transit station, though I doubt many OOTers will go that route.
— Large parking lot at the park; we have about 20 “free” spaces in a dedicated lot for the venue, and then dozens in a $5 general parking lot, plus free street parking near the venue entrance.
— Evening reception that ends at 11 pm; guests are a mix of 30-somethings and older relatives.
Based on this, does it seem necessary/appropriate to have a shuttle? Would you expect one, or be surprised/offended not to have one, as a guest?
I’ve definitely been to weddings with shuttles, but they’ve all been in places where there was a longer drive or limited parking involved, so I’m just not sure what to make of this. Thanks!
Post # 3
Well my venue parking was free and I had a handful that were out of state. I just gave them directions and no transportation.
Yeah, I would say you need to provide transportation if the reception was hard to get to or limited parking or a long drive.
Post # 4
I dont think so with your situation. Most people will not mind the drive but I would make sure that all of your out of town guests have a way to get to the reception after the ceremony.
Post # 5
I am curious about this too. My situation is that the church is about 30 mins from the reception site. Most of my out of town guests will stay near the reception site. I am looking into options, but wondering if it is rude not to provide the transportation as well! We’re thinking of providing transportation from the church to the reception, but not from the hotel to the church.
Could you provide a shuttle from the reception to the hotel, but not the hotel to the ceremony? That might be appreciated and be a bit cheaper.
Post # 6
Thanks—should have clarified, our ceremony and reception are actually at the same place (literally at a little waterfall in the park with the venue right below) so there’s just one trip there and one trip back. It’s pretty easy to find, though (the surface road they would take is literally the same road—it runs through half our city, with one end at the water where the hotel is and the other end in the hills where the park is!)
Post # 7
Another question to ask is how is everyone coming to your wedding. Will they be flying in or driving in? If it were me and I was flying in, I would just rent a rental car.
The question I would ask my mom is how are they getting from the airport to the hotel… should I be driving them around all weekend?
Another thing I considered was have transportation because I didn’t want people to drink and drive. So they would all get picked up at the hotel and then dropped back at the hotel after the reception. It ended up costing a lot so I didn’t do this.
Plus, my guests all stayed at different hotels, so that might be a headache to coordinate stops.
Post # 8
@yrret107, yes, I actually *did* ask my mom that! 🙂 (Only because we have two other events….the rehearsal dinner is walking distance from the hotel, but the brunch is at our house, which is about two miles from the hotel, so too far to walk but too close for a shuttle to be worthwhile!)
Everybody is flying in, so we assume that most people will rent a car or at least be coordinating with someone who is. (You can take public transportation to the hotel from the airport pretty easily, but beyond that you would need to get familiar with the city bus/train/ferry system to get around, which I sort of doubt people will do.)
The drinking-and-driving part did cross my mind and seems to be the most/only compelling reason I can see for a shuttle, but since the OOTers are largely older relatives I don’t know how much that will factor in (although who knows….) We are doing beer/wine only, though, so in theory that might help. And we will have hard alcohol at the rehearsal dinner the night before where people will be walking distance from the hotel, so hopefully anyone interested in getting plastered can do it there instead and have it out of their systems by the reception… 🙂
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say it’s rude but as a guest, I would say it’s a little incovenient. Transportaion for any guests to and from a central lodging location is NOT something that’s always expected. However, it’s a very nice gesture, esp to encourage ur guests not to drink & drive.
If it’s in a budget, do it. If it’s not, just informed the guests (via email, word of mouth, or in OOT bags or whatever) about the $5 parking and provide maps and stuff. That would be nice.
Post # 10
I think it depends on how easy it is to get lost on the way coming or going. I know that roads can look drastically different in the dark and if you have older guests who may not be used to driving at night, it could be an issue. If you choose NOT to provide transportation to and from, can you maybe give one of the BMs or GMs the to-do to coordinate the buddy system for older guests and guests that may not have cars?