(Closed) Is it customary to have your parents names on the wedding invitations?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you/are you having your parents names on your wedding invites?
    Yes : (27 votes)
    61 %
    No : (17 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We had “together with their parents”, as both sets were contributing financially but also because had given us loads of non-financial support. I don’t think it’s essential, especially for a less formal wedding, but it will have been different in your parents’ day which could explain why they’re a bit put out.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Did they help pay for anything? If not its your choice, but many people still mention in some form out of respect for the emotional support and because, well they are mom and dad. 

    If they did help you pay at all then they should have been on it.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I will be putting our parents names on the inside because I like the way the wording looks. It seems symmetrical since I have their names in regular font, then ours with an ampersand in script font, and then the details again in regular font. That’s my reasoning!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I didn’t have invites to my DW, but for the reception that my ILs hosted, they put their names and my parents’ names on the invite, even though my parents did not contribute monetarily nor even attend.

    Post # 7
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    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Its only traditional to have the parents names on the invites if they are “hosting” (paying for, basically) the wedding. 

    We had a bit of help from both sets of parents but paid for most of it ourselves, so we put “Together with our parents” to keep everyone happy.

    Post # 8
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    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Traditional wording includes the hosts of the event. So if you are paying there is no need to include your parents. This might be helpful http://www.beau-coup.com/wedding-invitations-etiquette-proper-wording.htm

    That’s funny though becuase I used the following: “[my parents full names] invite you to celebrate in the marriage of their daughter [my first and middle name] to [FI’s full name] son of [FFIL, FFMIL first names]” I wanted to give my parents their role as host, but I wanted to recognize his as well.

    and my Mom asked if it was dated to list it like that. She suggested “Together with their parents [FI] and [Me] invite you…” but I really like the traditional wording better.

    Go figure, it’s just a matter of preference!

     

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    If the parents helped pay for anything, it’s generally considerate to include their names.

    I’m actually including both my parents’ names and my FI’s parents’ names, because his parents are paying for our entire rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 11
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    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My parents are paying for almost the entire wedding, so we will be including their names as the hosts. ie “Mr. and Mrs. Blais invite you celebrate…”

     

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @sweetchiquita12:  are your parents paying?  typically the parents are on the invite when they are paying or hosting, if not i find couples just saying together with their parents or omitting them altogether.

    Post # 13
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    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @sweetchiquita12:  In that case I think she may be a little oversensitive, but the older generation do have totally different expectations when it comes to etiquette sometimes. I’m sure she’ll get over it Smile

    Post # 14
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    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think you did fine then! Maybe say that you wanted to recognize both sets of parents?

    Post # 15
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    5548 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    My parents paid for our whole wedding but to be nice they wanted DH’s parents name on it too, so it said “Chasesgirl’s parents with Chase’s Parent’s invite you to the marriage of their children” then our names. I think it is a nice consideration but if you are paying not needed. 

    Post # 16
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    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I asked my parents if they’d mind not being on them, and they said that they weren’t bothered, had they wanted it I would have, giving that they made a fair contribution. But as they weren’t fussed I just put mine and my husband’s names..I was trying to steer away from tradition 

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