is it disrespectful if i don't kneel in mass

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I dont think it would be disrespectful, but I’m not religious at all.

Post # 4
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Completely understandable. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.

I sometimes have knee issues (injury from high school) and therefore can’t kneel. I just scoot forward in my seat a little bit and bow my head. Therefore I’m still being respectful, which is all that matters. My church down in here in FL doesn’t have kneelers so no one kneels.


Post # 5
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ex Catholic here… there’s actually some debate about this (or at least there was when I was a child) but I think that it would not be disrespectful if you sat while they kneeled. It’d be one thing if you were swinging from the chandeliers or running up and down the pews, but I doubt anyone would find it disrespectful if a pregnant woman sat while everyone else knelt.

Post # 6
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

I have Catholic friends and married into a Catholic family (dh doesn’t practice it anymore). They have all told me it isn’t necessary for me to kneal, so i don’t.

Post # 7
2115 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

As long as you’re respectful about it, I don’t see how it would be a problem.  I’ve seen parishioners who are not able to kneel just sit in the pews with their heads lowered, to show respect in the same way. 

Post # 8
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@newname_99:  I had a bad knee and was unable to kneel sometimes. I would scoot way forward in the pew and bow my head. No one ever said a thing.

Post # 9
38 posts

I wasnt raised catholic so i dont exactly know what the “rules” are, so i always kneel for the same reason – fear that ill offend someone. it kills me b/c i will get bad pain in my one knee if i kneel too long (injury from 10+ years ago). I honestly will cheat a bit – when i start to get sore, i will rock back so that my butt is leaning against the seat. it takes the pressure off and i still feel like in not being disrespectful

Post # 10
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@newname_99:  I’m Catholic and usually everyone kneels except those who are elderly, but I think being pregnant and not kneeling will be fine. I would be really shocked if anyone says anything to you about it, you should be fine!

Post # 11
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m Lutheran – not Catholic – butwe have similar services and in my church we say “kneel as you are able”. And not everyone is able. Nobody would bat an eye at a pregant lady. No big deal. If there are people directly in the pew behind you, you may want to try to scoot to the front of the seat. But it’ll be fine.

Post # 12
115 posts
Blushing bee

I have some catholic family too and attend events held at their churches occassionaly and I’ve never kneeled or gotten up for communion. Its never been an issue, as long as you are respectful I don’t think its really a big deal. 

Post # 13
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I promise nobody will be watching you to see what you do. Please don’t kneel if it’s physically uncomfortable. I have (invisible) health problems and sometimes I’m not able to kneel. Nobody says boo.

Post # 14
2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Just sit when they kneel and bow your head.  Some elderly do this because they can’t kneel.

Post # 15
167 posts
Blushing bee

Born and raised Catholic (and attended Catholic school) here! I was always taught that those who are elderly, pregnant, or have a physical disability are not expected to kneel if it is too difficult. I’ve seen pregnant ladies remain seated while the rest of the church kneels and I don’t think anyone would ever think twice about it.  I don’t think anyone would take it as a sign of disrespect.

Post # 16
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I was raised Catholic.  I know quite a few people that get offended when visitors don’t kneel.  Some do see it as disrespectful (I’m not sure I have an opinion on it myself).  However, its is understood that people should “kneel as they are able”.  I’m sure no one will bat an eye at you not kneeling at 8 mos. pregnant.

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