is it etiquette that I hang out with my out of town guests before and after?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@skschick:  Yikes, I would never expect someone to do that for me, ESPECIALLY right before their wedding.

I’ve heard about DW’s doing lower-priced flights if everyone books on that flight or airline, and if everyone was coming in on ONE flight it might be nice to pick them up and see them, spend an hour, etc. but no, she shouldn’t have expected this.

How is she planning on getting around the rest of the time she’s in the area?  At most I would put her in touch with another friend that’s flying in that she could possibly carpool with or give her a local taxi’s phone number.

Post # 4
677 posts
Busy bee

@skschick:  As far as I know, you’re not obligated to provide someone transportation from the airport. You can make it easier by letting her know about shuttle and taxi services. If you live in a remote area, it may be nice to see if SOMEONE (not necessarily you) could help out, but if you’re in a major city, then I wouldn’t worry about it. Transportation should be easily accessible.

Post # 5
2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You absolutely are not supposed to pick up all your guests from the airport. I think it’s nice if you can have a picnic or something casual the day after the wedding but its certainly not essential 🙂


Post # 6
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is there anyone else that could pick her up?  Or a taxi?  Or public transportation?  Our guests are either being picked up by my parents (they volunteered) or getting a rental car.  You can’t submit yourself to being her chauffer, you will be way too busy.  Tell her to walk!  HA JK or maybe not?  🙂

We decided to do a “welcome” dinner instead of a rehearsal dinner because we wanted to actually spend casual time with our OOT guests.  I was going to be sad not to spend any quality time with my family (most are OOT), so I decided to include them with dinner.  But by no means are you obligated or required to do so.  Whatever works for you!

Post # 7
3246 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Um, no.  I don’t know why she would expect that!!!

Post # 8
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

She was very rude to expect you would pick her up. She should provide her own transportation. If you want to be nice you could set up something on your wedding website where people could contact each other about rides. But you shouldn’t be doing anything.

As far as spending time with OOT guest, I do think it’s a good idea, but not stricly necessary. It also depends on how many guests we’re talking about. They’ve come a long way to see you and it’s nice to have more than 30 seconds in a recieving line. But if you’re having a smaller wedding where you’ll really be able to talk to all your guests that night, then you’re fine. And I think a causal affair the night before is a perfect idea – that’ll give you more time with those that you don’t get to see often. 

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