(Closed) Is it ever okay to not invite 1 person out of a family of 5?

posted 5 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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257 posts
Helper bee

I have a similar situation– my best friend growing up had an older sister and 2 older brothers. I was very close with the family, including her parents and especially her sister. The 2 older brothers were much older and though I saw them occasionally (still do), I wasn’t close with them. For my wedding, I am inviting the 2 sisters and the parents, but not the 2 brothers. I guess what makes my situation a little better is that there are 2 out of 5 not invited…

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@crystalrae:  If he’s an adult and lives on his own, I don’t see why you would have to invite him. If he lives with the parents it might be a little awkward to exclude him though.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I think you should invite the family as a whole. If you arent close to them then they might not come anyways. If they see they arent invited, it may offend the whole family and none of them would come. Just my opinion 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@crystalrae:  I think it’s fine not to invite him. If he’s an adult, then he doesn’t automatically fall under his parent’s invite. You can always casually mention to your girlfriends about it being a small wedding, limited invites, etc if there was any internal discussion in the family…?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@crystalrae:  I still think that if he’s an adult, he shouldn’t neccessarily be invited, regardless of where he’s living. If you invited a friend, you wouldn’t invite their roommate. I dunno, that’s just my thinking. Besides, if he’s that dependent, he should learn that he doesn’t get to automatically be included in things, that he needs to develop his own relationships. But yeah, I think passing it by your girlfriends casually in a close ended way “I don’t have really have room for [brother], would it cause an issue if he wasn’t invited?” versus “Should I invite your brother?”

Post # 9
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you should invite him.  If he doesn’t want to go, then he won’t.  But is it worth hurting the feelings off a family over 1 person?

Besides, he’d have to be a pretty brazen 19 year old to get drunk and act stupid in front of his parents.  Especially a religious non-drinking family.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If he doesn’t live at home then no, you do not have to invite him.

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