(Closed) Is it ever okay to take back a ring (that you hate)?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is it ever okay to take back a ring that you utterly hate?
    Heck no! He picked it, you stick with it! : (32 votes)
    27 %
    Uh... Yeah! That thing is like, perm.a.nent... : (64 votes)
    54 %
    Only if it breaks : (11 votes)
    9 %
    other.... leave a message :) : (12 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I voted for changing it, but only if it was OK with the FI.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It would have to be absolutely awful, like honestly horrible for me to do that. I really don’t like that one of her main reasons was where it was from, I think thats a little overboard. I think that in this time period, it shouldn’t be as much of an issue anymore though, engagement is more of a decision than anything else so I think brides have the choice to hint around at the kind of ring they prefer (or pick it themselves like I did)

    Post # 6
    Member
    2906 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Who really looks at an engagement ring besides the woman wearing it?

     

    Honestly, I was at the airport and complimented a woman on her ring. She said, “Oh, my husband picked it out.” When he came over she said “honey, she likes the ring you bought me.”

     

    I have never heard anyone so unhappy about their ring! (And the guy seemed to have no idea.)

     

    I felt TERRIBLE for bringing it up. She should have returned it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    858 posts
    Busy bee

    OMG I feel so bad for her FI that must have hurt his feelings so bad, the only way that would ever be ok was if the guy was ok with it, the only way I see getting around that would be during the wedding band search if its hard to find a band to match. even if you dont love the look of it a first it could grown on you after time and its the meaning behind it that matters plus you dont have to wear it everyday once you have your wedding band. I say suck it up for the sake of your FH’s feelings

    Post # 9
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    858 posts
    Busy bee

    thats why I am big fan of helping the guy by giving hints I know its not the most romantic way of going about it but that way everyone is happy in the end, I am curious he never even asked her friends about her taste in jewelry or anything?

    Post # 9
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    In my mind; the band was not comfortable, that’s enough reason to get a new band. She kept the stone, I think that’s got to count for something.

    Post # 10
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    2906 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @miss sparkly cat:Sometimes the guy doesn’t allow for “hints” or ignores them.

     

    This is a problem for both people and your sister should have ABSOLUTELY talked to her fiance before getting everything changed. Feelings would be hurt in both directions, but a *talk* was really needed.

    Post # 11
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    858 posts
    Busy bee

    @futuremrshc: thats fine if she had made an effort to get used to it for more then a few days and could have been nicer about it her FI has feelings too I dont blame people that want to change their ring for reasons like that but you have to go about it the right way

    Post # 14
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    858 posts
    Busy bee

    hopefully his feeling arent too hurt by this I feel bad for him

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