Is it EVER okay to use a racial term?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Would you refer to someone by a racial term if they were okay with it?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    14 %
    No : (98 votes)
    64 %
    Depends on the situation (Explanation below) : (35 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @LBeeLove:  I think its so highly subjective and personal. If it is OK with your circle of friends and the use is not in a negative, condescending manor I think its ok. 

    There are just too many rules about it to list. 

    Post # 4
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    12262 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am way too majority (white, middle-class female) to call anyone by any slur! Not even with their express permission!

    Post # 5
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    595 posts
    Busy bee

    If you belong to the group, or you’re among those that are comfortable with it, it’s okay. Otherwise, no.

    Post # 6
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    1074 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @LBeeLove:  i never call jews names.  i joke that we are cheap, but maybe the better word is frugal 😛

    Post # 7
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    9920 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think if you’re an accepted part of a minority group, and you joke with your friends about calling each other a name, it can be sort of okay.  But really, there are some words I wish would just disappear from the lexicon.

    Post # 8
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    595 posts
    Busy bee

    @peachacid:  I’m curious, because someone else mentioned the same thing about a label that I use to identify myself…

    Post # 9
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    1123 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @LBeeLove:  Oreos is not racist – it almost seems affectionate, at least in the way that they use it. Similar to the way that my fiance and I refer to our best man as a ‘wog’ – he’s Greek, my fiance is Australian, and I’m Malaysian. Like we’ll be waiting for him for lunch or something, and as he gets closer my fiance will say something like “Here comes the wog” just for a laugh. But they’re best friends; we’d know not to call anyone a wog if we weren’t close to them like that or anything.

    On a similar note, I like making Asian jokes. I also love the shock factor it creates when I tell Asian jokes to people who aren’t Asian… like “How do you blindfold an Asian?” – “With a shoelace!” It actually cracks me up when they look on in shock and then realise it’s ok if they laugh, because it is. And I think it’s a great joke!

    Having said that, I would still laugh if someone who wasn’t Asian told me that joke, but that’s just the kind of person I am and I know not everyone is like me. I’m generally pretty easygoing.

    Of course you have blatant racism, insults and the like – my dad is a parking inspector (tough digs, right) and he puts up with crap all the time, like people calling him a Chinese c*nt or whatever when he tickets them. That’s racism.

    Post # 10
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    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Not really. I do make some jokes about my own heritage, but not about others

    Post # 11
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    1592 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I mean, I’m not gunna lie I’ve heard good friends or couples use them in jest. My brothers HS group literally consisted of a few white guys, a few Hispanic guys, an Asian guy, a black guy and an Indian guy.  They always used to tease each other.

     

    Post # 12
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    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Oh yea.  The dynamic of my 3 best friends

    I’m Irish/Argentine

    KMF is Irish

    CC is Puerto Rican/Black

    AD is Chinese

    Do you have ANY idea how NON PC our get-togethers are?  Jesus we’d be shunned from the community if you heard the racial ribbing we gave each other when we do our movie nights together. Seriously – if anyone recorded our nights out….we would NEVER be able to run for office.  

    Post # 13
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    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @LBeeLove:  I personally dont like it and wouldnt call anyone by a racial slur. I’m african american and I hate when other african americans call each other the n word. As to the orea statement you said, I have been called an oreo before but didnt like (meaning black on the outside, white on the inside…so bascially your not really black becasue you act white…thats what I been told anyways) I have no issuse if people use it amongst themselves and are comfortable but I really dont like it

    Post # 15
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    1912 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I don’t think there should be any exceptions. 

    A rapper dropping the N word is celebrated, friends use it as an endearing term. But someone else could use it and be basically stoned. 

    Everyone stop. It shouldn’t ever be ok, if it is, then it’s hypocritical. 

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