Post # 1
That I am taking 5 days PTO for my wedding? FI and I have pretty much footed the bill for our wedding and are not going on a honeymoon until later when Winter starts. We have tons of family and super close friends who are coming into town starting tomorrow and will be staying with us for a couple days post wedding- not to mention last minute things still need to be taken care of before Saturday.
My PTO starts tomorrow and I will be returning to the office Wednesday 9/25. My boss (who is invited to the wedding) made some weird comment this morning about how “Glad I am that you are taking this time off to enjoy the time” and started ratteling off random reasons about how I have family and friends coming into town, blah blah blah.
He had this stupid goofy look on his face while he was talking and I Just kept silent and let him ramble on until he trailed off. It was uncomfortable to say the least… Should I just ignore him?? I definitly feel justified in taking time off for this…
Post # 3
@Starling13: I think you may be overreacting. It’s fairly common to take at least a week off around your wedding. From what you wrote, it seems like your boss was being genuine.
Post # 4
@HisQueen2Be: I am overeacting? Ok, lol. No – he wasn’t being genuine. I have worked with the man for 5 years as a 2 person team, lol.
Thanks for the reassurance that taking this time off isn’t weird, though. I hate it when he makes me question my reasoning!
Post # 5
My wedding was on a Friday evening so I took off the Wednesday and Thursday beforehand. We also took off the following week for our HM. If you have the time then take it!
Post # 6
Well, seeing that DH and I worked until the day before the wedding and only went on a 3 day honeymoon, I don’t think it’s “excessive” but I don’t think in general one needs to take a week of before the wedding.
However, in your case since you have people coming in from out of town, this is no different than just using your PTO to visit with them.
Ignore your boss. Some bosses complain whenever anyone takes time off for whatever reason.
Post # 7
@Starling13: Why would you be taking advantage of your company?! It’s your PTO, and you can use it however you want. It’s not like you’re getting extra time off, you’re just allocating your vacation toward this.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@Starling13: I didn’t vote, because I don’t agree with any of the poll answers. 5 days is a very reasonable time (my boss took 2 weeks off), and it doesn’t sound like he was being creepy at all. It sounds like he’s genuinely happy for you. I vote you’re overreacting.
Post # 9
@Starling13: It is NEVER unjustified to take time off. You have every right to enjoy some time off after your wedding. It’s your WEDDING! So what you are not going on an actual honeymoon. You definitely need that time to spend with family and friends, and just decompress. Preparing for a wedding is a lot of work and stress, taking time for yourself to relax after is totally justified. But it doesn’t matter, if you have vacation time to take, it’s YOUR time and you can take it whenever/however you’d like!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Yeah that’s the thing about PTO… it is YOUR time that YOU HAVE EARNED and you get to take it! It’s yours!!! Especially for a wedding! Take the time, leave work at work and try not to think about it monday and tuesday! I know sometimes I have a hard time leaving it at the door but definitely do this for yourself 🙂
Post # 11
I don’t think it is neccesary to take all the days afterwards since you aren’t going on a honeymoon, but if you have the time of I guess why not. I also don’ think your boss meant anything by it like PPs have said.
Post # 12
@mrspinesol: It’s defnilty possible that I am hyper-sensitive, however, he did gripe a bit when I originally submitted my dates for taking time off. Then the look on his face and his tone was pretty condesending this morning.
I don’t care what he thinks ofme taking time off for this since I already have a good idea (there is some background to this story). I simply came to the Bee with this to make sure that I wasn’t being silly for taking 5 days off.
I suppose I could have left out the emotional bit.. But it can be theraputic to bitch write about it
Thanks for your feedback!
Post # 13
They’re your vacation days, it shouldn’t matter when you take them. I’m taking three days off before my wedding and the week after for the honeymoon. Don’t feel guilty for taking time off before and after an event like a wedding. Even if we weren’t going on a honeymoon, I would have taken a day or two off the following week just so I could decompress and destress from all the stuff that was going on.
He’s a dude. If he’s married, maybe he didn’t take time off before the wedding and let his wife do all of the work. If he’s not, maybe he doesn’t understand how much last minute work there is in the days leading up to the wedding.
Post # 14
Uh, im taking 3 weeks off, and my boss is scheduling me for random days off during the week, because she knows I still have alot to do. 5 days is nothing
Post # 15
@Starling13: You can use your PTO however you please, so his opinion doesn’t matter, although by what you described I don’t see how he was being offensive or anything. The time you took isn’t excessive, but I personally wouldn’t have taken that many days off. I took off Thursday for my rehearsal and Friday for my wedding, and I was back to work on Monday. I had enough family visiting time Saturday and Sunday. My honeymoon was taken a few weeks later, and for that I took a week off.
But, as I said, it’s your PTO to do with what you want. If you feel you need 5 whole days off by all means take it 🙂
Post # 16
My plan was to take two and a half weeks off (the week before, the week after, and half the week two weeks before – I had five weeks of paid vacation a year). But then I quit my job because FI got relocated, so now I’ll be lucky to get two days off.
But yeah, absolutely not excessive.