Is it excessive to take this much time off?

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: Am I taking excessive time off for the Wedding?
    Yes you are - shame on you for taking advantage of your company : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Hell No - your boss is CREEPY & You deserve to savor this time with your Fiance, Friends & Family : (53 votes)
    84 %
    Perhaps you should come back to work on Tuesday instead of Wednesday.. : (6 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Starling13:  I think you may be overreacting. It’s fairly common to take at least a week off around your wedding. From what you wrote, it seems like your boss was being genuine.

    Post # 5
    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My wedding was on a Friday evening so I took off the Wednesday and Thursday beforehand. We also took off the following week for our HM.  If you have the time then take it!

    Post # 6
    1259 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Well, seeing that DH and I worked until the day before the wedding and only went on a 3 day honeymoon, I don’t think it’s “excessive” but I don’t think in general one needs to take a week of before the wedding.

    However, in your case since you have people coming in from out of town, this is no different than just using your PTO to visit with them.

    Ignore your boss.  Some bosses complain whenever anyone takes time off for whatever reason.

    Post # 7
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Starling13:  Why would you be taking advantage of your company?!  It’s your PTO, and you can use it however you want.  It’s not like you’re getting extra time off, you’re just allocating your vacation toward this.

    Post # 8
    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @Starling13:  I didn’t vote, because I don’t agree with any of the poll answers. 5 days is a very reasonable time (my boss took 2 weeks off), and it doesn’t sound like he was being creepy at all. It sounds like he’s genuinely happy for you. I vote you’re overreacting. 

    Post # 9
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Starling13: It is NEVER unjustified to take time off. You have every right to enjoy some time off after your wedding. It’s your WEDDING! So what you are not going on an actual honeymoon. You definitely need that time to spend with family and friends, and just decompress. Preparing for a wedding is a lot of work and stress, taking time for yourself to relax after is totally justified. But it doesn’t matter, if you have vacation time to take, it’s YOUR time and you can take it whenever/however you’d like!! 

    Post # 10
    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Yeah that’s the thing about PTO… it is YOUR time that YOU HAVE EARNED and you get to take it! It’s yours!!! Especially for a wedding! Take the time, leave work at work and try not to think about it monday and tuesday! I know sometimes I have a hard time leaving it at the door but definitely do this for yourself 🙂

    Post # 11
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I don’t think it is neccesary to take all the days afterwards since you aren’t going on a honeymoon, but if you have the time of I guess why not. I also don’ think your boss meant anything by it like PPs have said.

    Post # 13
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    They’re your vacation days, it shouldn’t matter when you take them.  I’m taking three days off before my wedding and the week after for the honeymoon.  Don’t feel guilty for taking time off before and after an event like a wedding.  Even if we weren’t going on a honeymoon, I would have taken a day or two off the following week just so I could decompress and destress from all the stuff that was going on.

    He’s a dude.  If he’s married, maybe he didn’t take time off before the wedding and let his wife do all of the work.  If he’s not, maybe he doesn’t understand how much last minute work there is in the days leading up to the wedding.


    Post # 14
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Uh, im taking 3 weeks off, and my boss is scheduling me for random days off during the week, because she knows I still have alot to do. 5 days is nothing

    Post # 15
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Starling13:  You can use your PTO however you please, so his opinion doesn’t matter, although by what you described I don’t see how he was being offensive or anything. The time you took isn’t excessive, but I personally wouldn’t have taken that many days off. I took off Thursday for my rehearsal and Friday for my wedding, and I was back to work on Monday. I had enough family visiting time Saturday and Sunday. My honeymoon was taken a few weeks later, and for that I took a week off.

    But, as I said, it’s your PTO to do with what you want. If you feel you need 5 whole days off by all means take it 🙂

    Post # 16
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My plan was to take two and a half weeks off (the week before, the week after, and half the week two weeks before – I had five weeks of paid vacation a year). But then I quit my job because FI got relocated, so now I’ll be lucky to get two days off.


    But yeah, absolutely not excessive.

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