Post # 1
Hello Lady Bees!
I think we have finally come to a decision – we are going to have a ceremony with just the 2 of us followed by a big celebration with family and friends next year. My next issue is wondering if I’m being excessive by getting a beautiful dress for the day of the actual ceremony. I have fallen head over heels for a couple of dresses by La Sposa and Mori Lee but I’m wondering if that’s too excessive or elaborate for a ceremony with just 2 people? I know whatever I wear the Fiance will absolutely love and her jaw will drop to the floor but I dont want to look like a jerk or like I’m being too extra.
So I wonder, am I overthinking this and I should wear what I want or should I scale back??
Post # 3
@CocoClassic: I would wear what I wanted….because it might not be seen by anyone but the two of you, but it’s still the ONLY time you get to wear it! Go for it!
Post # 4
Could you wear it again the following year when you celebrate with your friends and family?
Post # 5
If you feel like it’s too indulgent to buy a new dress for just the two of you, maybe look for a less expensive option: a pre-owned dress, get a replica dress made, or buy one at a Brides Against Breast Cancer event (and with the latter option, you can also feel good about supporting a good cause).
Another option might be to look for a style that you could dye or alter into a “normal” dress that you could re-wear later.
Are you guys having any photos taken on your wedding day? That would definitely be a good reason to buy a special dress even if it’s just the two of you.
Post # 7
@Nona99 – thank you. I really want to indulge but I dont want to be friviously jerkish but this is going to be my ONLY wedding day and I want it to be FANTASTIC!
@Dragonfly22ny – I was thinking of wearing it again @ the celebration. I mean considering this is the second most expensive garment purchase I’m making in my life, I need to get as many wears as possible!
@Saffy – yes we are definitely having a photographer. I need this day to be memorialized so we can continually relieve our amazing moment. And for your ladies that are familiar I’m head over heels for the La Sposa Fanal dress. I’m sure I could have the front shortened to make it cocktail length with a train maybe? Dont want to look flamenco dancer-ish but definitely something totally fabulous for the party we plan to have! All this is contingent on whether we dont make any further changes to our plans. Only time will tell!
Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 8
Our original plan was to get married with just the two of us. Then we changed it and only invited my dad and his parents. Whether we did it that way or had a hundred guests, I had the money, so there was no way I wasn’t wearing a fabulous dress to get married. Go for it!
Post # 9
Good point @Strawbabies. I did say all I needed was the Fiance, a smoking hot dress, delicious dinner and a small wedding cake! Those are my needs – very basic and simple! I think Imma go for it. You only live once, right? YOLO!!
Post # 10
Wear whatever you want! I’m wearing three outfits on my big day. Do other people think it’s excessive? YES. Do I care? HELL NO.
Post # 11
@QueenofCups: +1 Glad there are other ‘excessive’ brides out there. At Chinese weddings, it’s expected that the bride will have at least three gown changes. There are very few Chinese traditions I embrace, but I’m happy to use this one as an excuse to buy several beautiful dresses!
To the OP – wear what you want! Given you are having a photographer, I would think it’s perfectly acceptable to wear a gorgeous gown. Photographs are forever, so I think you would regret not going all out for your big day. And I would definitely wear the dress again for your reception down the track.
Post # 12
I would get it! It doesn’t matter if you are having an intimate ceremony or a huge allout wedding bash it’s your special day! 🙂
Post # 13
@CocoClassic: Definitaly get it if you can afford it – it is YOUR time to be selfish and do what YOU want x
You don’t want regrets afterwards. It doesn’t have to be beautiful to anyone else – it has to be the best it can be for you to love it and be happy in it and always know that you made the best choice for you.
And that is why I’m doing the same with our little wedding 🙂
Post # 14
@peonyinparis: @QueenofCups: +10000
Not excessive to me, either. In Nigerian culture, multiple dress changes are expected, and my sisters and I will have no less than 4-5 dress changes, thank you very much! Guests even have dress changes at other people’s weddings!
OP, whether you wear the dress again or not, as long as you are wearing what you want to your wedding (and who cares if there aren’t 200 people in attendance at the ceremony), it will be fine. And taking photos, buying preowned or wearing it to the reception, as other PPs have suggested, are options to help allay your concerns about excessiveness. I say go for it!
Post # 15
I don’t see how it would be excessive. Wear what you want for both events, and remember that the wedding is for you and your FH, no one else. Whether it’s just the two of you or a hundred people, it is still your wedding and you deserve to feel gorgeous in whatever you want to. If it’s in your budget to have two dresses and it would make you happy, then do it!
Post # 16
i think you should buy the dress no matter how many people will be there. its your wedding and even if its just the two of you, the dress can be all that you needed! and maybe you can wear it again during the party next year.