- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My cousin is planning my bachelorette (it was supposed to be a joint effort between her and my (totally useless) sister, my cousin is not a bridesmaid – i know this is weird but I only got to know her a couple of years ago and all my BMs are lifelong friends, most of whom live out of town, so the cousin not being a bridesmaid is a whole other etiquette weirdness but anyway, moving on…)
She asked me if she could invite some of her friends, some of these girls are people I don’t really like, some of them are girls I do quite like but just don’t know very well. I said I wasn’t sure, let me think about it.
Then she asked if she could invite another girl, who we both happen to be friends with, because as a kid I went to summer camp for many years with this girl. There are a handful of summer camp friends that I didn’t invite to my wedding, and actually feel pretty bad about… it was just, all or none of them, and the guest list is out of control already, I’ve known these girls for ages and camp was so important to us and is a big part of who I am now… but our contact is pretty much once every year or 2, we aren’t that close. My family is so huge that I only had room for about 15 friends.
Question is, isn’t the bachelorette supposed to just be for wedding guests? Or does that rule only apply to showers, because of the gift-giving? If my cousin invites her friend who is my camp friend, then I will have to invite the other camp girls, which I kind of feel will just rub in their face that they aren’t invited to the wedding 🙁 …unless maybe I just let her invite her other friends too, so there are more non-invitees there. Maybe my cousin just wants to ‘show off’ this awesome party she is planning for me (she’s a real partyparty girl, totally in her element with this task, though I still do feel a bit weird that she is doing it and is not a bridesmaid – all my BMs are either out of town, too poor, or too useless, mean and unhelpful (my sister, whooole other story, blah), so she just seemed like a natural choice and actually kind of ‘called it’ before I even asked her, haha… should I let her bring her friends?