Post # 1
My fiance and I are fortunate to have careers and well established financially so we are paying everything for our wedding. BUT have to say some of the wedding vendors and services I’ve come across are outrageous with pricing $$$. It’s ridiculous.
Everything from flowers, videography, wedding planners, alterations…. to a simple piece of tulle called veil for hundreds of dollars. How do young couples do it now a days to pay for wedding, ESPECIALLY during these times where the economy is not doing so well BUT wedding vendors are not budging to cut brides-to-be some slack. Maybe it’s just me. I want my dream wedding but not desperate enough to pay ANYTHING. Trying to play it smart and finagle my way to discounts or finding the right bargain. If you have any tips or great bargain sites, please share with other fellow brides.
Just had to vent.
Post # 3
shop around, haggle, find discounts,
got a veil for 30 bucks- it was 50% off. our food went from 42 per person to 35 per person cause we took out two salads and did a cheaper beef option. alterations will be 100 dollars instead of 500 by finding a seamstress who does this work on the side of her actual job.
Post # 4
You are not alone.Bargain shopping is your best bet.
Post # 5
I’m feeling the frustration too!
Put your name in every mailing list for venues, bridal shows, you name it… occasionally you can come out with a good deal or a freebie
Google is my new best friend. Search for cheap, bargain or wholesale + whatever you need and see what comes up. My FMIL found me a fingertip length veil for $20 plus shipping, which is way more reasonable for tulle on a comb.
Photography has been a pain in the rear. We’ve been looking and we can’t find someone who doesn’t charge $2500+ for the day – so we asked a friend of FI’s who is a professional car photographer to take our e-pics. If they turn out well he’s going to do the wedding too. Put the word out to your family and friends that you’re looking for these sorts of things, they may know someone!
My vent: Our venue charges $1500 for the use of their built in uplighting. You have got to be kidding me – $1500 so you will turn on the LIGHTS?
Post # 6
After doing a lot of shopping around, I have a better understanding for why vendors (especially photographers and videographers) charge so much, and I think they’re worth what they charge… although we’re going with an up and comer with a ton of potential to help save some money!
But the gripe I have is with bridesmaid dresses! I’m always shocked at how expensive they get, pretty much across the board. The only way to get away from those price points is to look for pretty dresses that aren’t actually labelled “bridesmaid dresses.” I’ve been looking everywere at department stores, specialty shops like modcloth, etc. but the problem with them is that the style I love never comes in the right color, or it gets sold out really quickly. I’m starting to think it’s a bridal industry conspiracy!! :p
I was jst at H&M the other day and there was a super cute flowy chiffon dress – normal price $50, on sale for $25. And it looked just like a bunch of bridesmaid dresses I had just been looking at online that cost $200!! But of course, it only came in beige and orange. haha. If H&M can sell these for $50, why can’t bridesmaid dress manufacturers?!
Post # 7
I feel your pain! I wish we would have had a longer engagement so we could have spent moreo time looking around. I’ve used Yelp a TON to find wedding vendors, and also to weed out ones that I was considerign throwing away money on. We found our caterer through Yelp and are so glad that we did! No one had reviewed him on there for a wedding (although he’s done plenty and had tons of lovely letters to share, and offered to give references – I didn’t even ask! I took them, but never did use them). Also, Google and Craig’s list can be helpful, and the classifieds on here. Keeping an open mind also helps – as @nkatsa: said, bridesmaids dresses are expensive. We’re having a mixed gender bridal party w/ only two girls, so that made things a little easier. One of my ‘maids loves to bargain hunt so we talked dresses and she was the one who found them! The dresses are from Kohl’s, ordered when they were on sale, plus another % off (thanks to my mommy’s Kohl’s card), and I ordered using ebates. No, they aren’t typical bridesmaids dresses, but that’s okay. I was a ‘maid in a wedding and our dresses were from JC Penney and, not on sale, were around $50! Plus I’ve worn it since.
My partner and I also each made a list of the top 3 things that are important to us in our wedding, and then 3 things that aaren’t as important. Then we compared lists and talked about it. For us, we were okay with spending a bit more on photography but didn’t find videography worth it for us at all. Once we were on teh same page about what was important (and we were in total agreement, haha – sign we’re perfect, right?), it was easier to let certain things go. For example, I LOVE a particular bakery near us. LOVE. However, teh price per slice of their cake made me weep. We found someone else who makes cake that are almost as lovely (she’s jsut not as skilled as pricey bakery – they’ve been on Food Network a few times and the cakes are also tasty) and I really think a little bit better. Oh, and the best part? She’s around 1/5 of their price. Plus delivers for FREE. FREE. (other place was going to charge me per mile and we won’t talk about that rate. Also cue tears). When I was sad about how expensive it was, my partner said if it was worth it to me, we’d do it. Turns out, it’s not. I’ve also bartered – I gave a workshop for a group in exchange for one of the board members of that group hooking me up w/ my flowers
Post # 8
I feel the same way, but as it was suggested, shopping around really pays off! I’ve reduced costs little by little, but one thing I will not skimp on is photography (which I still found lower priced than the one I initially wanted with an impressive portfolio).
Post # 9
Wedding = $$$$
It’s like this – you have a natural disaster, let’s say a power outage, the price of generators goes way up, they used to be $200 but now they’re $1500! The word WEDDING is money, so they jack the price up so high that you think you have no choice but to pay through the nose for their services, because if you don’t, someone else will. So most vendors don’t back down.
Post # 10
you are not alone! I just can not afford to get my veil, LOL
Post # 11
I’m frustrated, too. Now the only thing I can do is shop around, hoping to find discounts.
Post # 12
@dorianww197264: if there is a wedding boutique near u check there… i just stumbled in at wedding cottage in my city and they had all veil 50% that weekend. because i couldnt justify spending 100 or more dollars on a veil from dress shop i was gonna nix it out of what i would look like. since i found an amazing deal on it there is back in the “look” i am going for.
Post # 13
once you put the word Bridal- or wedding- in front of a word, especially photographer and limo, hair and makeup, it’s easily $300 more! or $1k more! INsane!!! even rentals are more expensive then BUYING tablecloths!
Post # 14
It makes me nuts. I hire photographers for my work all the time. When I first got engaged, I asked one of my favourite photographers if he does weddings. I normally hire him for a full 12hr day for about $7-800. I was floored, he quoted me $2400 for 5hrs for a wedding. I asked him why it would cost me 3 times more. He said that is just the way weddings are. He sent me his wedding portfolio. I had a really hard time hiring a wedding photographer knowing that if I booked them through the union it would be a fraction of the price.
Post # 15
One of my vents:
For flowers I wanted 3 white callas for the bridesmaids. 3 stems. 1 small piece of ribbon. I was quoted $60 each. EFF YOU am I going to pay $20 per flower. For that I’d walk right into a grocery store, grab whatever was there and have a gigantic bouquet for each of them to hold. I almost did because there was NO WAY. I think I ended up paying $30, which was still totally ridiculous (imho), however the quote for my bouquet was $110 less than the others. Yah… cuz there’s that much room to play in a 12 flower arrangement. seriously people.
Post # 16
Most vendors give non-Saturday discounts & off-season discounts. That usually helps a lot of brides!