Post # 1
I don’t know what’s in the air lately, but it just seems like everyone is getting divorced. Both of my husband’s parents and my aunt and uncle have all just started divorce proceedings with their spouses. That’s 3 couples who have all been married for 10+ years calling it quits within this month! I think my poor husband is panicking a little bit. Any one else have friends and family parting ways at the same time?
Post # 3
I did but they’re all getting back together (or trying to). FI’s sister (who was married last May), a friend FI & I used to work with, & FI’s Aunt & Uncle. I’m glad they are all trying to work it out though.
Bad things come in 3’s though!
Post # 4
My sister is going through divorce proceedings and it started about three months after I got engaged. The jerk of her ex even had the nerve to ask me about my wedding & details the same night right before he asked for the divroce. argh.
I think noticing these things and unfortunately being open to the possibility and the reality of it makes us realize just what a commitment we are making by getting married & making sure its one we want to make and consider exactly how wrong it can go seeing other people divorcing.
Dont let it bring you down – that’s the advice I have gotten. However, understand it is simply assisting you in making an informed decision regarding your upcoming nuptials. But its really hard to turn from wedding planning to being on the phone with someone ranting about their ex & dealing with a child custody battle. It sucks & I do feel it does take away from your celebration of upcoming nuptials – especially if the family is more comforting or walking of eggshells for the divorce individuals.
Post # 5
YES!!! Same here! My sister’s husband decided he no longer wanted to be with her in September (they have 2 small kids). My other sister asked her husband to move out a week after my wedding…. And my parents who have been together for 23 years are now seperated… Wow, so depressing! But I just think that we all had different situations in which we got married… As long as you’re mature & go into it for the right reasons I think it has a better chance of lasting! :~)
Post # 6
I totally agree with you! It’s like Divorce is the new Marriage nowadays. I feel like an outcast walking around with an engagement ring sometimes, it’s awful.
Most of the divorces around us right now are people who got married young (in or right out of college), don’t agree on how money should be spent and/or had kids too early on. The biggest reason is getting married young though.
Post # 7
I don’t have it going on in my family, but I’m an insurance agent and I see it quite frequently in my office. I guess people don’t try to work things out like they used to. My boss and her husband both had "practice" marragies before theirs. I told FI way before he proposed to think long and hard about asking me to marry him cuz I don’t believe in divorce, so he’s stuck with me for life
Post # 8
Ironically, my FI and I know we can never be divorced. Our home state does not recognize same-sex marriages, and thus will not issue same-sex divorces. And although you can celebrate your marriage in any state, you can only get a divorce in your home state. She’s definitely stuck with me!
Post # 9
yikes… thats some terrible news for you guys! my family is catholic italian so in the family i have about 7 widowed aunts (aunts not by blood but very close family) and my mum is a widow also. i joke with hubby i will never accept a divorce but i would accept being a widow (wink wink)
i think its very sad to hear some of these older marriages ending