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Hey Bee’s,

So I guess I should be more enthusiastic about my wedding, but I just feel more down than anything. I love my FI and it’s not the getting married part that makes me down. It’s the planning lately. Maybe it’s just me or maybe its not. Here’s what’s got me down and you tell me if you think it’s just me or not.

1. My sister kind of nominated herself as maid of honor. Really what can you say, “No”? I mean we don’t have the best or worst relationship. Honestly I really hadn’t thought about a maid of honor at first, but I pry would have picked her anyways. Well through out this whole planning thing she’s been telling me she’ll buy this and that for me for the wedding.  Like colored table cloths, heaters if it were outdoors, fabulous bridal shower etc just different various things. She has not done a darn thing at all. I don’t care how much or little she spends on my wedding. I just hate the empty promises. Don’t tell me you’re going to do all these great things for me and not follow through. I’d rather you just not say them in the first place. Oh and by the way my sister is about four years older than me and still single.( Part of me thinks she’s a tad bitter and I only say that because that’s the type of person she is). So about a month or two ago (I can’t quite remember, my memory isn’t it was before I started planning a wedding) I asked me sister to look into going to bridal shop to look at these specific dresses. She said okay I’ll look into it. Did she ever do it? No! Since our wedding is so close in April. I know we need to get my Bridesmaids dresses soon. So yesterday I asked me sister if she can make the appointment and we’ll go looking. You want to know what she said to me…... “I can’t my weekends are booked but we can go the second weekend in January.” I told her, “Well I might go before that,” and her response was, “That’s fine.” After that I just walked away from her and thought to myself, “Hmm and I thought I was the one getting married?” She just doesn’t seem to care. She’s done a few other things, but this outraged me to no end and I don’t know what to do about it. Talking to her like a normal person and telling her that it’s not okay would only make her defensive.

 I mean there are other things that are stresses me as well like finances, my mom (for some reason she just keeps getting mad at me for no reason) literally! Maybe Menopause or something.

 There have already been times I just want to elope because of everything, but we aren’t and wont.

 What type of drama, stress and problems are you guys experiencing?

 Thanks

I think weddings can bring out the best and the worst in people.  I would probably leave your sis out of the wedding planning and just expect her to buy the dress and show up.  Since she can't actually go dress shopping with you till January, maybe you guys can browse some dress photos online to get some ideas.