(Closed) Is it just me or everything around me?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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350 posts
Helper bee

I think weddings can bring out the best and the worst in people.  I would probably leave your sis out of the wedding planning and just expect her to buy the dress and show up.  Since she can’t actually go dress shopping with you till January, maybe you guys can browse some dress photos online to get some ideas.

Post # 4
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree w/ hello – maybe you can just tell your sister politely, “thanks, but no thanks” when she tells you she’s going to do things for you. It seems that she’s not following through on any of the promises she’s making you, and it might be better for you just to let her know that you can handle the things that she’s offering to handle.

As for your mom – I can absolutely relate. My mom was a complete nightmare through the entire process. She was mad at me b/c I didn’t say thank you the right way during my shower. I also didn’t hold up the stuff enough for everyon eto see, and she was mad b/c she wanted to see what I got before it was packed up into the car. Crazy…I could go on about my mom…so try to take it in stride.

Post # 5
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Weddings bring out very strange emotions in people and every couple will experience weird emotional things that you just cannot predict.

For us, we had our fair share.

1. We had a LOT of problems with a groomsman, and he ended up dropping out. It was a lot of jealousy issues, and the friendship ended. It was awful and out of nowhere. I won’t get into details.

2. I can’t stand my mom’s boyfriend, and neither can the entire family. There was a lot of tension and drama surrounding his attendance at the wedding.

3. My mom and the guest list. She wanted to invite people I never met (her boss, what?!). I had to tell her no.

4. My mom and aunt hated my dress when I showed them a picture online. I hadn’t told them that I bought it yet, but it ended up being the one for me, so that was awkward.

5. Overall, we just got a lot of opinions on things from people that were unwarranted, so we stopped sharing details. It got better after that. We just kept telling people, “Oh, it’s a surprise!”

6. I had a BM back out at the last minute (a week before). It was unexpected and the reason was shady.

It’s always a lot to deal with. I had break downs and times where I wanted to elope, too. Just know that it always works out. All the drama just disappears on the wedding day.

Post # 6
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Girl I feel your pain.  All my friends and family make fun of me for being the “planner”.  It isn’t just the wedding stuff this has been my title for years now.  So they all think including the FI that I’m stressing out that things haven’t gotten done yet because our wedding isn’t until April (the 2nd week of April mind you).  So I got out a calendar and marked every single thing that needs to happen and by when.  So for instance, invitations need to be mailed by ___ date,  etc.  I also then wrote in every holiday/wedding/social activity we have over the next 3 1/2 months.  Since I’ve shown it to the FI he has now realized that we don’t have much time to keep putting things on the back burner.  Especially since he is gone 3-4 days every week for work.

Hang in there and do as I’ve done. Just start taking care of it yourself and if they don’t like what you’ve done oh well, you’ve tried to include them.  You gotta get things done and don’t have time to wait around on them and their schedules.

Good luck!

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