- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I saw a post on FB this afternoon about my mum’s BFF by someone they both work with, saying “thoughts and prayers are with (name), get well soon” and tagged her in the post.
When I saw it, I called my mum to find out what was going on because I was concerned (mum’s friend has had strokes and other illnesses), and to me, “thoughts and prayers” isn’t something you associate with someone having a cold/flu/something else relatively minor. My mum said she arrived at work this morning, and was having a conversation with her friend, before she all of a sudden started complaining of chest pain, clutched her chest, and was drifting in and out of consciousness. They called an ambulance, which arrived and stabilised her before taking her to hospital.
She’s okay for now, she’s being kept in overnight for observation and tests. They aren’t sure if she had a heart attack, or if the turn was caused by a blood clot which travelled to her lung – she just flew home from Hong Kong a couple of days ago.
The FB post I just mentioned was put up just as the ambulance left, ie, before anyone was able to get in touch with the woman’s family, especially her kids, one of which has a brand new baby. I’m normally pretty good at censoring myself on FB, but I commented and said that I hoped that her family were called and told before they saw this status, as to me it was wrong to make something like that public before the family knew anything about it. The person who made the original post commented and called me nasty and accused her of being insensitive… to which I said she wasn’t insensitive, but inconsiderate for making a post like that immediately after the ambulance left, and that I felt the timing was very bad. She came back at me saying that “some people needed to know” and that was when I stopped commenting. Seriously? Her family need to know FIRST.
I know I’m not related to the woman, but she IS a close family friend, and I know her well enough to know that the last thing she wants is people fawning all over her, that’s just the type of person she is. If the facebook status went up after it was confirmed the family all knew, hours later, fair enough. The timing of it really pissed me off though.
So my question is, am I in the wrong for thinking what the colleague did is totally inappropriate? I know people were trying to get in touch with this woman’s family, but if they happened to see that first… well, if it was me, I’d be fuming, and beside myself not knowing what was going on.
ETA because rage typing does not a good speller make.