(Closed) Is It Just Me? Rant

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I always hear the statistic that 60% of husbands cheat and 40% of wives cheat. I have no idea where that number came from, but it doesn’t really surprise me unfortunately Undecided

Post # 5
Member
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have also noticed the increase in number of threads about cheating. I chalk it up to the fact that these threads are popular because of the racey nature, and people seek out someone to share their expierences with because they just need someone to talk to and presumably can’t talk to their SO because of the infidelity 

Post # 6
Member
6209 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@redheadem:  ugh that is awful!

Post # 7
Member
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My husband told me that he heard that somewhere around 78% of men cheat or something. Unfortunately, this seems about right. It’s definitely a lot more common than I would hope. I think it’s really scary when they’re married or about to get married. I think both men and women make mistakes and might cheat at some point in their lives, but cheating right before the wedding is really disheartening…or after you’re married because it’s so much harder to just leave. 

Getting married takes so much trust, honesty, and understanding. It’s scary to think that even ‘good’ relationships with no previous red flags could be broken so quickly and that one partner could be completely blindsighted.

Post # 8
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a great article that talks about cheating statistics and how that 70% figure is way off.  The article says best estimates are 3-4% for currently married people in a given year and 15-18% of ever married people.  

http://www.forbes.com/2009/06/28/sanford-ensign-affair-opinions-columnists-extramarital-sex.html

I’m sure you can find a number from 2-3% all the way up to 75% or so. There’s ton of BS research out there that means almost nothing and the media is great at taking a research finding and completely butchering it and taking it completely out of context.  I’m a big research nerd, so I always go back to the original literature and take any summarized statistics in a news article with a big grain of salt.

As an oversimplified proxy – just think about how many cheating posts there have been vs. how many users on this site (or even fairly regular posters there are). I’d estimate it to be way less than even 50%!

Post # 9
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I feel like almost every topic is cyclical here at the Bee.  Not sure if it’s the influx of new Bees every couple of months or what.  However, it seems like we’ll go through a flurry of posts about infidelity, bachelor party issues, angry about proposal, and ring size posts.  One topic takes center stage, then fades a bit for another.  I think that the number vary by time, but quantatively are consistant in their average.

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