Post # 1
*** Everyone should be warned – if you don’t want to read about blatant TTC ignorance, turn back! Otherwise, keep reading. Thank you. :D***
Is it me or is this whole process way more complicated than you first think? I have been operating under the assumption that you try, it happens, we all move on. Now I’ve been educated about TTCing and BFNs and BFPs and OPKs, and don’t even get me started on charts. Combine that with my new knowledge of all the little things that need to line up to make a baby, and really – I feel like it truly is a miracle litle people get made at ALL.
Anyone else? Or am I alone in this parade of (admitted) ignorance?
Post # 3
count me in there!
i mean… i knew there was a few days around ovulation where you could get pregnant, but i pretty much thought it was all a guessing game.
seeing my sisters’ experiences really didn’t change that too much. both were (oops) pregnant at their own weddings by accident. one sister now has four kids and all she did to “try” was not use a condom. the other one got her second pregnancy while she had an IUD.
i thought we’d have sex and bam! we’d have a souvenir from the honeymoon. nope. then i started posting here in the TTC forum and have been learning sooo much this month.
Post # 4
@Soonsoon: you are so not alone! I was like HOLY @$&&$!!! When I first started TTC. you get used to it quickly 🙂
Post # 5
Yeah, there is a whole world of TTC that I had no idea existed before I started hanging out here. I’m still trying to learn all the acronyms.
I think there are still plenty of people for whom TTC doesn’t go beyond ditching the birth control and having lots of unprotected sex, though. Those people just aren’t going to be hanging out on TTC forums comparing cervical mucus and period charts. 🙂
Post # 6
This first two week wait has been agony. I told Darling Husband tonight that I never knew how long two weeks can be. Makes me ache for the long-time TTCers. And as far temps and CM go, I was like, “What the heck?” when I learned all the details. I was clearly unaware of how complicated it could be for some.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I agree with some of the previous posters. For a lot of people, it really is that easy for them. For someone like me (four miscarriages and not always regular cycles), I really have to plan out when we try and I have been to the OB/GYN like 20 times in the last four years. For me TTC is kinda complicated. I do hope though, that y’all get your BFP’s soon!
Post # 8
I’m not even TTC yet, I just hang around these boards so when the time comes, I know what to do!
Post # 9
@rosworms: Same here! Everyone I know is all like “Yep, did it, and WABAM, with child.” It’s good to know that it’s not always the case – and actually, more of an exception than a rule.
@ChuckNorris: Thanks! I hope so. I’m learning – slowly but surely…
@sailor: This is very true. Though, I think there’s an argument to be made for being informed at any rate – just good to know how your body works in general.
@pilotsgirl56: Agreed! When I first heard about CM, I couldn’t help but be grossed out – but I’d be lying if I didn’t also have an “A-ha!” moment. Things just start to make sense…
@doily: It really does depend. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you and everyone else!
@Miss Otter: Smart! A head start!
Post # 10
yeah, who knew all how many things have to add up at the perfect time for it to happen? I certainaly had no idea about all this stuff until a few weeks ago when I started looking at these boards. Good luck, hopefully it works quickly for you!
Post # 11
So you don’t just have sex and end up pregnant?
You have to put MORE work into it?!
Well that’s just disappointing, because I’m lazy.
Post # 12
@torrid: I think that is all most people have to do. And it can be almost instant or take a while. In which case you’d just keep doing it until it happened. Or not.
Post # 13
Miss Otter: “I’m not even TTC yet, I just hang around these boards so when the time comes, I know what to do!”
I know what I’d do. Sex for 2 months everyday. I bet we’d get a winner.
Post # 14
OMG YES! We just started TTC (as in, we went off BCP this month) and I had no idea there was so much that went into it! SIL got pregnant just by not using condoms, TWICE on “accident” and all of my other girlfriends that have kids got preggers on their first or second cycle TTC. Only time will tell for Darling Husband and I, but jeeez louise it really does seem like getting pregnant is a miracle, OP!
Post # 15
@PlumeriaSplash: You’d be bowlegged, but you’d assumably have a winner haha.
@torrid: Right? But, if anything, it’s an education on how things work. Which, in a way, is nice.
Post # 16
I guess I have to figure out what step to take next, because I think we’re out for the month. Period is supposed to come Monday, and I already have a little light brown spotting. So I guess now I get to be one of those CM-checking, temp-taking, OPK-practicing people. I know it’s only the first month of trying, but clearly doing it every other day for three weeks didn’t work for us. Ugh.