Post # 1
FI and I decided to have an “adults only” wedding. One of my cousins lives in another state and expressed that she wanted to come, but her son’s 2nd birthday is the Monday following our Saturday wedding. I offered to get a babysitter for during the wedding, but she declined that option and declined to attend.
On Wednesday I got a text from the same cousin that she will be flying into town today (Thursday) for a day or two with her son and could I pick her up from the airport. I agreed to pick her up, but then my next thought was “If she can make it down here for a day or two on whim, she can make it to my f***ing wedding!” She has not come to visit in about 9-10 years. Why would she come now? The week before my wedding! And ask me of all people to pick her up….she could have asked any of the other 20 family members that live here. Oh, and she flies for free because her husband works for an airline. Neither of her parents are coming to the wedding. She could have asked her parents (or husband) to watch her son for the day and flown into town for a few hours then.
I’ve noticed a trend with brides. Some family/friends seem to lack consideration.
Post # 3
i thought free seats on planes was because they were not sold and even if she had a ticket she could easily get bumped for a paying customer so maybe it was a spur of the moment opportunity
Post # 4
@eloping: you are right. I work at a travel agency, they get extra seats but they can be bumped out of it at any time…
Post # 5
There are pluses and minuses to having an adult only wedding versus a family wedding. The obvious plus is you can have a serious ceremony and formal party without worrying about little ones interupting. One of the minuses is that once you choose adult only over family then family may assume it’s not a family event, but more of a friends event, so their participation is not as important.
Post # 6
I think with the plane thing… I mean, I know you can get bumped but its just the fact of it. WHY would she come NOW? why wouldnt she “try” to come later so she can attend the wedding. Its just rude. Im sure some people are attending the adult only wedding who have kids… and they are more than happy to get a night away.
and yes overall, i dont understand what it is about weddings that bring people to crazy town!!!
Post # 7
@MeganTacky2247: i dont understand what it is about weddings that bring people to crazy town!!!
This pretty much says it all… I always say weddings bring out the crazy in people! I don’t get it either.
Post # 8
It’s not just you. I thought it was just my family, glad to hear it’s “normal”
Post # 9
This isn’t about a plane ticket or a family vs adults wedding. It’s the crazy.
Weddings do bring out the crazy train. A lot of “opinions” get thrown into the mix that you really don’t even need to hear. Don’t worry, girl. It gets the best of us.
Post # 10
I think it’s the brides that get more selfish. I’m sure it stings a little that someone doesn’t think that your wedding is the most important thing in their life but it’s not. She’s got a life outside of you and she gets to live it.
My guess is that she isn’t comfortable leaving her child with a complete stranger. I wouldn’t be. There are any number of reasons why she is here now instead of rarranging her life to make your wedding. That doesn’t make her selfish or rude.
Post # 11
Until children are two, you can hold them on your lap on the plane, thus no paying for the ticket.
Post # 12
@eliwhit: you got it exactly right!
@megantacky2247: Seriously! The audacity. Why would she come now…after at least 9 years of not visiting.
@wigglewagon: Its not about her rearranging or not rearranging her life for me. It’s about principle. Don’t say you can’t make it to my wedding (or any other event) then come into town a week before just because you felt like it……especially when you haven’t made the time to come visit any other time. Its like the people that use money as an excuse not to attend, but then they’re on a 6 month european trip or something.
Post # 13
its not just you I agree lol
Post # 15
Nope not just you. Until I joined this site, I thought everything was just me. I now see I’m not alone, thank goodness. But yes weddings bring out people’s true colors and you see how truly selfish and self absorbed people can be. It’s pretty disgusting and amazing the depths that people will go to to get their way.
Post # 16
When we first started planning I was the crazy one and I felt awful. It was like something took over me!! Not so much a bridezilla just really emo! whew! I got over it and I had to learn to get over other peoples crazy too:)