Post # 1
ok so SO has had the ring for months, and I try to not bring it up (I think I’m pretty good, only like once a month) so we were talking last week and I asked him if he had any big plans coming up (just hinting at the possibility) and he says no, so we keep talking and I flat out ask him when he’s planning on proposing. Cause he’s been saying it depends on our financials (he makes 50k and I am babysitting part time but looking for something full time) and I had had an interview which I thought went well and I was hoping to get the job (didn’t end up getting it, they hired someone else even though ‘We were impressed with your qualifications and we greatly appreciate your time in considering this position’ blah blah blah) then he says that it doesn’t matter if I get a job, it has to do with his job. Wtf? he’s got a semi good job (they stress him out terribly, but it is pretty damn good considering!) I’m not asking him to marry me on the spot and lets move in together, I just figured if he has the ring and wants to spend the rest of his life with me that we can move forward! Ugh so frustrated. Am I just being impatient or is this a little odd?
Post # 3
Holy run on sentence, Batman.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s really odd or out of the norm that he has the ring already. I think it can be frustrating and annoying for us girls to have that knowledge. This is the reason I told my SO I didn’t want to know when he actually makes the purchase and I’m not going to look for it if he has it for any length of time before proposing. Impatience sometimes gets the best of us though! So I think you should relax and know that if he has the ring, it means he WILL ask at some point. I know it’s easier said than done, but just know you aren’t alone!
Post # 5
Run on sentence, indeed! 🙂
I don’t think it’s weird, per say – just ask him to clarify what he means. Is he saying his job is in jeopardy and he wants to ride out the storm? Is he soon up for a promotion and wants to wait and see if he gets it? Does he actually hate is job and wants to get a new one? Communication is key! Regardless of the proposal, as his partner, talk to him about what’s happening at work and hear him out. He may just need your support to get through a tough time before he is ready to pop the question. Don’t just assume what he means or assume it’s odd.
Post # 6
Sorry, I just kinda had a rant in me and needed to get it out lol. His job isn’t necessarily in danger, there have been talks about moving his dept from NJ to DE… but I’ve been hearing that basically since we met. He hates his job and wants to leave, but most times when he actually does get an interview he can’t seem to get his butt to the company to interview. (Then again I’m working my ass off to try and get a full time job and I still can’t get one! Grr)
I guess what’s really getting to me right now is the fact that 2 and a half months ago he basically said that when I find a job we’d get engaged, which pissed me off then but I could at least understand where he’s coming from. Now all of a sudden it’s dependent on when he gets a job.
I kinda hate the fact that I know he has the ring, but I am also glad to know that he intends on marrying me… eventually. I just hope he doesn’t keep me waiting forever!
Post # 7
Frustrating that he has the ring and wont propose!! It must be driving you a little crazy!
Boys have some wonderful list of excuses they put in their heads ahead of proposing and I think sometimes you gotta let them get it out of the system before they propose. I would just keep quiet, take up a new hobby yourself and keep busy!