Post # 1
I am so torn about the dress. At the beginning of this I was set on a 1950’s swing dress. I love the style and I own about half the dresses on this website. So I was like yes! I’m going to get my white dress for under $150 with no alterations and no bells and whistles. I’m getting a red petticoat and some killer shoes and I will be happy!
It doesn’t clash with my tattoos and it’s my favorite style. (secretly I wish women still wore full skirt dresses. I wish it was more like 1950 without the opression!)
But then I made the mistake of subscribing to bridal mags and blogs. All of a sudden I felt like I was cheating myself out of the whole dress shopping exp. I talked myself into thinking I could get two dresses! We are having an afternoon reception and then an after party. I could get the “normal” bridal dress and then change into this dress later. YES! I had a plan!
Then reality hit. How could I be so selfish to want to spend money on two dresses? Why was I trying to conform to the “wedding industry standard?” To blow an extra $500-$1000 on a dress was just disgusting to me.
So now I am back to being committed to this dress, petticoat, shoes, ect. yet at the same time the normal part of me is like “NO! You are taking that exp. of dress shopping away from you, your mother, your friends, your sisters! They will never forgive you!”
Did you have alt. dress struggles or did you always invision the standard wedding dress?
Post # 3
I think that’s a gorgeous dress! Also, I don’t think you’re cheating anyone out of the “dress shopping experience” – first of all, it’s not your job to provide that to them, and secondly, dress shopping really wasn’t all that fun (in my opinion).
That said, I do understand how you feel. I chose a dress that isn’t exactly standard either – it did come from David’s Bridal, but it’s not the style that is currently trendy. (I wore this dress with a red sash and red shoes: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Lace-Tea-Length-Cap-Sleeve-Gown-9T9948_Bridal-Gowns-Features-All-Gowns) I had pangs of regret too, thinking that maybe I should have gone with something less offbeat and more conventional, maybe something with runching. But you know what? You want to be comfortable on your day. You want the pictures to look like *you*, not what the WIC says that you should look like. If the dress you picked works for you and your budget and your venue, go for it! No one is going to care where your dress came from – also, you can spend the “extra” money on really great shoes!
Post # 4
I actually HATED dress shopping. So, IMO, I don’t think you are really missing out on anything (except a headache!!) 🙂 But – why not go and try some dresses on… that way, you can still have the experience – and really see if there isn’t another dress you’d rather have.
Love the swing dress, btw – super cute and hope you go with that option!
Post # 5
I think that dress is so cute! If I weren’t so traditional when it comes to dresses and stuff like that, that is the exact syle I would go for. Maybe when we renew our vows one day I will wear something like that.
Post # 6
I absolutely love, love that dress! I’m making my own, and it will be very similar to yours, only I’m going for purple/lavender accents instead of red.
I don’t feel cheated out of dress shopping. I feel smart. I’m getting exactly what I want, at a price that I find acceptable for such a dress that I can wear again to parties. And who’s going to arrest me if, just for fun, I decide to go and try on a bunch of stuff in a bridal shop just for giggles?
Post # 7
I was not at all excited about the idea of dress shopping and knew if I went, I’d be tempted by dresses that were outside of my (very, very small) budget. So I went online and purchased the J Crew Taryn dress for less than $400 after coupon. I’ve since started second guessing my decision a bit (maybe I bought too early, maybe I should keep looking…) but I do like the dress I chose. It’s very simple, soft, flowy and romantic, which is exactly what I wanted. I plan on getting a shrug to cover my shoulders, since I don’t think they’re my best feature. I think once I have the whole ensemble together, I’ll feel really good about my purchase.
Anyway, I think when it comes to your wedding, you need to be true to yourself. It’s your day, wear what makes you happy and don’t worry about what’s considered “normal”!
Post # 8
If you genuinely want to go wedding dress shopping you can go to davids bridal they have some gorgeous gowns under 300 that you can wear to the ceremony so the total cost of both your dresses would still be under 500. But again its really all up to you. You should do what truly makes you happy but dont suppress the desire to go dress shopping cos many years later you may still wish that you went.
Post # 9
I love that dress. It would make an awesome reception dress. If you don’t mind sharing, can you please let me know the website that you saw it on:-)
Post # 10
I have about half the dresses on this site. ^_^
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@noritake22: stock up now. Her prices are going up in 2011!
Post # 13
@Miss Tattoo: They are really reasonable now. Do they fit true to size?
Post # 14
First, I love your dress!! Stick with your original vision, it is spectacular!
Second, I also struggle with this. I work in a prom dress store, so I am used to seeing way over the top, sparkly gowns. I picked the worlds plainest wedding dress and I keep thinking..this is my wedding, is this spectacular enough? Which is the worlds DUMBEST thought- we are having a reception in our backyard, and my FI hates anything splashy! The dress is perfect for us, and perfect for our event, but the only people who have seen is the coworker who went dress shopping with me (she is a fellow bride) and a few coworkers when I sneak it out of the backroom to try on accessories. My mom has made a couple comments about dress shopping or seeing the dress, but she just didn’t seem that excited before and said no matter what I chose I would be beautiful, yada yada yada (shes been through this with three girls already…), I guess I just know that the bottom line is, when my friends and family see me on my wedding day, they are all going to be happy and no one will be thinking how they missed out on the shopping experience with me.
Post # 15
@noritake22: If you are from America, no. Take your measurements carefully. The sizes go by W&B Don’t order a size 28 waist if you are a 30 because it will not zip.
@MissTatas: I know I keep thinking that the right combo of accesories will really dress it up. A great birdcage veil with a huge flower and feathers and a pearl and “diamond” bracelet will look fantastic with this.
I don’t know…I guess we all get brainwashed into thinking “BIG WHITE WEDDING WITH BIG WHITE GOWN! SPEND $5000 ON GOWN! DO IT! DO IT NOW!”
Post # 16
The more I think about it and talk to my SO about it, the more I realize that a non bridal dress would fit us best. I mean, he’s wearing chuck taylors with his seersucker suit. I’d be lying to everyone if I walked down the aisle in a big white ballgown.