Post # 1
Okay. So I am in love with the ring that my FI picked out. The only thing is is that there are side diamonds and if I get a wedding band I will be forced to cover them up. I am currently looking for a job in the hospital setting as well and will have been advised against wearing my actuawe engagement ring since I will be having to take gloveson and off all day so I was just wanting to get a cheap band for that purpose only. However right now FI and I do not have enough funds to purchase a band(we are planning ok purchase one when I start my new job).
SoMy question is, do I need a band for the wedding? Or can I get away with just my engagement ring. I not to plan on wearing the band(once I get one) with my e-ring anyways.
Do any of yOu just have an e-ring and are not planning on getting a band?
Here is what my ering looks like. There are small diamonds at the base on both sides.
Post # 3
If you are having a religious wedding, I think you need a band so the officiant can bless the rings etc. However, he may be able to bless your ering instead. Have you considered wearing your ering on your right hand and wearing a wedding band on you left hand?
Post # 4
I would not go as far to say it’s nessesary but I love my e-ring as well and got the band for its symbolism and we will be doing the traditional Christian/Catholic ceremony..you know “with this ring I the wed. I don’t think everyone has to be the same or traditional so it’s really just up to you as a person, you will get asked I am sure by many people to see your wedding rings as plural for its not common a married woman doesn’t have one at all…maybe left it at home but not to have one to most would be odd for I think it’s more common to have a wedding band and not e-ring then it is to have the e-ring and not band. Well at least it has been in the few states I lived.
I personal think if we can’t afford at least a cheap wedding ring I would advise someone to wait till they are more financially stable to have a wedding or get married unless you’re just really religious and want to be or live together ASAP or one of you is moving away and want to be married before you move away with that person…yada ..yada. I think you may regret it one day if you don’t but maybe not
Post # 5
Yes you MUST have one or you won’t really be married!
j/k. Nah, you don’t need one. It’s just a ring. For the hospital setting, though, it would be a good idea to just have a plain band. If you did decide to get one, a plain band would look great w/your ering, and they’re not that expensive. But it’s your hand, your rings, so wear them however you want!
Post # 6
I also work in a hospital and there are situations that I cant wear my rings so I went on EBAY and bought a stainless steel band for $10 bucks and with shipping it came to maybe $15 total. It works good for me.
Post # 7
@Otulyssa: Holy offensive. So just because someone doesn’t have loads of money means they shouldn’t get married? I really hope you didn’t mean that. I’m not sure how being broke single is much different than being broke married. We weren’t rolling in any kind of dough the day of our vows and I don’t regret it in the slightest. Lots of couples have “humble beginnings”. Besides, she just mentioned that she is looking for a job.
OP, you never “need” anything – don’t let people you don’t even know tell you differently. I know two girls who opted not to get wedding bands because they preferred the look of their engagement ring alone. Even though they could more than afford a band, they didn’t see the point in spending money on something they didn’t want in the first place. Both ladies were married with their engagement ring (used it as the “with this ring” part of the ceremony). Both ladies are Catholic – there’s nothing in the church that says you “need” a wedding band. Oh, and I love your ring!
Post # 8
My parents will be married for 30yrs this year and my mother doesn’t wear a band. She just never cared for one and are financially stable but she just doesn’t personally like the look of it. I’m sure your officiant can bless your engagement ring, however you may not want to spend that much on your band since you won’t be able to wear it much, so maybe you could buy an inexpensive plain band for the ceremony and to wear to work and later down the line you can you buy your dream ring.
Post # 9
You don’t “need” a band. Your ring is gorgeous and can stand alone just fine! With you being a nurse I’d also recommend an inexpensive plain band for work, but outside of work your ering should stand alone just fine. You can always buy one later if you find one you like.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies for all of the responses. It’s just so hard because I can’t find one that I like and that will go with my ring(even if it does cover diamonds). I am just getting so frustrated.
Post # 11
I did not get a band as my wedding ring and I wish I did. I got a solitair enhancer. But besides that, I think that you do NOT have to have a band. Your ring looks beautiful on its own 🙂 My mom has never had a wedding band. Just her ring that is similar to yours and she is perfectly happy with it. Now as far as working in the health setting, I know all about that (nursing school) policy of no big rings/prongs can rip the gloves, but the main reason I will not wear my ring to the hospital is the thought of little nasty critters creeping in and coming home with me. acckkkk. So, I am getting a plain white gold 2mm band. I also thought of maybe getting a silver one.. so something like that could go great as a band for you. Good luck hun
Post # 12
I’m actually not going to get a wedding band that goes with my e-ring. There are a couple of reasons for this though. First, we plan on upgrading my ring in a few years and due to the unique shape, I would have to get a wedding band specifically made for it. The other reason is, I am a nurse in a hospital and I don’t ever wear my ring to work (I was my hands too much, too many harsh chemicals all day long, and it’s a pain in the butt when I am doing sterile procedures to get those gloves on and remain sterile), so I plan to just wear my wedding band. And back to the unique shape, I wouldn’t be able to wear just my band without it looking funny and like it was missing something. But in actuality, it’s really a personal opinion
Post # 13
No, you don’t have to have a wedding band. I have a few friends with gorgeous and unique erings (like you) who don’t wear a band. A few others have mentioned that you need a ring for the ceremony but that seems a bit short sighted. Why would you want to wear a band forever just to match a ceremony script? Just take off your engagement ring and use that for the ring ceremony.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t stack a wedding band with a ring with 3 sided diamonds either. My avatar ring is like that and I wear a band on my right hand. I like having a band though. If that is not your thing, I would still consider getting a band just to have, that was used in your wedding ceremony. Emotionally, you might want that later, and some days, you may just feel like not wearing a big ring. Especially when you have kids. I used to wear my ering all the time, but once I had kids and pets and a big yard that needed care, I found that plain bands come in handy 😉 So you can still wear something with meaning, but don’t have to risk damaging your ring or hurting your babies..