Post # 1
My wedding isn’t going to be very big. We’ve invited about 80 people. All together, we’ll have about 12 or 13 tables. I’m almost over budget and really do not have the extra time to DIY table numbers and escort cards.
Do you ladies think I should just set the tables up and let people sit where they wish? (75% of our guests are my family because my family is way bigger than his) Or are their any cost-effective alternatives to table numbers and escort cards?
Help please! Thanks!
Post # 3
I think its fine not to have assigned seating, I went to two weddings that didnt and it was just fine.
Post # 4
Our guest list sits at 202. HIGHLY unlikely all of those will come (I know at least one is not, because he’s filming in NYC, so that’s 2 seats down).
Anywhos, we’re not doing assigned seats. They can sit where they want. Our friends and family will congregate together and my family, at least, will dislike us having so many people there. (My mom especially).
If we were to do assigned seats, I’d be tempted to put my mom waaaaay in the back/farthest from us, sooooo probably not a good idea to do assigned seats, lol.
I’ve heard good and bad things, but… honestly, they’re adults. They can figure it out themselves. 🙂
Post # 5
If your families are familiar with open seating, go for it. Maybe just make a few reserved tables for moms/grandmas/etc. And with open seating, make sure to have a few extra spaces than you will people, so that way no one has to get separated from their group. How awkward for a poor uncle who has to leave his family to find the one and only open seat across the room or try to get everyone to shuffle around to squeeze in.
Post # 6
We had 52 guests at our wedding and didn’t do a seating plan. It worked out great!
(not the pic of the sign we used, but that was the wording)
Post # 6
If you’re going to have open seating, it would be nice to at least put a “Please sit where you’d like!” sign up for your guests. I would personally sort of stand around looking for some kind of direction until someone else took initiative 😉
Post # 7
@tranquility:Oooh great minds 🙂
Post # 8
With smaller weddings, I think it’s fine to have open seating. I would follow the tips NDBee gave (having a few assigned tables for immediate family…and also extra tables to keep couples/dates together).
Post # 9
I went to an open seating wedding once and HATED it. It was terrible. There weren’t even enough tables for everyone to have a seat! Maybe it was because there were so many people, but it really sucks to go to a wedding where you don’t know a lot of people and be stuck with sitting next to Mr. Uncle’s Girlfriend’s Son whom you’ve never met in your entire life. I was in the bridal party and didn’t even have a place to sit! I ended up standing in the hallway with my date.
At the very least, you should set aside a table for the really important people–yourselves, grandparents, parents, siblings, bridal party. Everyone else can find an open seat. You could provide a general seating chart (sans the escort cards), which you can just print on simple paper. Table cards don’t have to be fancy! I decorated for my friend’s super-low-budget wedding, and I just printed some table numbers quickly at home on cardstock folded them in half (like a greeting card) so they would stand up.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! I love the idea of just putting up signs. I’m already DIY’ing reserved seating signs out of barn wood for our parents at the ceremony. As well as “Bride” and “Groom” signs for our reception chairs.
So, if I were to make reserved signs for a couple tables, what should I put on them? I wouldn’t want to put “Reserved for Immediate Family”, that almost sounds rude. lol
Post # 11
@blurmeblue: i agree – i went to a wedding with no seating and it was a mess. everyone running trying to find seats, and then me and my Fiance couldn’t find two seats together. i am really not a fan of it – it can be an extra stress on your guests
Post # 12
I would just put “reserved” and quietly let your guests know if they should sit at a reserved table! You could just let your parents know and they can do word-of-mouth. Keeps it simple!
Post # 13
Most wedding I’ve attended have open seating. I’ve been to 2 weddings with assigned seating and however they did the seating, it just ticked everyone off. At one wedding people were trying to trade seats and tables with others so they could be closer to family or friends and it took FOREVER to get people to sit down. At the other one family was seated at tables that were way in the back and feelings were hurt. One aunt had been seated separately from family and took it personally and ended up in tears. It was just a mess. I hate assigned seating at wedding. There’s no way I’m having it at mine.
Post # 14
At a minimum, put reserved signs on tables for parents, grandparents, siblings. You could always assign tables but not seats. With round tables it is easier. If you don’t do assigned seating, maybe have a few extra seats because people will sit with their friends/family, so not every seat will be taken at a table necessarily. We are doing long tables for 200, so I am still trying to figure out what we should do! If you assign tables but not seats, I don’t think you need individual escort cards, just a chalkboard or printed list!
Post # 15
I’ve been to a ton of events where they had open seating and it was a madhouse every single time (think the high school cafeteria awkwardness). Couples and families always get split up and are never able to sit together unless there are twice as many tables as guests invited.
A seating arrangement of some kind is necessary, no matter how formal or informal, regardless of the guestcount.