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Normal is whatever each couple makes it. For some that's no porn, some like separate 'alone time,' others watch it together, make it together, make it with neighbors, whatever their comfort level. If you two enjoy it, then rock on! Your friend isn't involved, so she shouldn't mind. It's not her business what happens in your bedroom.
Im all for it! Why not, something different and it can give you ideas ;)
If by "normal" you mean, do a significant number of couples do it? Then yes, it is normal. But honestly, even if you were doing something with your husband that literally no one else on earth did in the bedroom, and you both liked it, so the eff what? What would that mean? Would you be like, oh crap, we're not *normal*! We can't do this anymore! Just because dressing up as a banana and bouncing on a trampoline while your husband jacks off into jars of pickles isn't technically *normal* for most people doesn't mean you shouldn't do it if it makes you happy, right?
Also, your friend sounds like a creepy downer, justsayin.
Thanks ladies! I guess when I said "normal" I meant if anyone else was doing this. Lol. Thanks girls!
@Beluga: I don't know, you shouldn't ruin perfectly good pickles like that!
@mrs.folks.to.be: If you like it, you both are happy and you have hot sex I don't see a problem. Personally, I am not a big fan of porn but the industry makes millions of dollars every year, somebody is watching it! Your friend needs to shut her mouth.
I'm a pretty straight-laced christian girl...southern baptist in all. My pastor always throws porn into the same category as alcholism, grambling, etc. Personally, a porn addiction could be like alcoholism, but I see no problem with it especially if you are watching it together and having sex. Fantastiess, no matter what they are, are all part of good sex and sex is an important part of marriage. Porn isn't just for horny teenagers!!!!
@pccl: Thanks. I believe your pastor is correct about it potentially becoming addictive. We only watch it once in a while but idk.......I guess that's why i wanted to ask the hive about it!
I agree with Beluga. I wouldn't worry so much about wha's normal. If its something that works for you guys go for it.
not a big deal, i watch porn even without my FI, just recently hes gotten into watching porn at the computer while i *give* it makes for good times. everyone has their own since of 'norm' to me its not a big deal.
I think you're about as normal as everyone else. ;) Meaning...none of us are. That said, we totally do it too. Sometimes we don't, because we have somewhat different tastes...Lol.
If it ain't broke, don't "fix" it. And your friend sounds judgy and irritating.
Sounds like you have a perfectly healthy adult sex life with your fiance. Your friend sounds a bit inhibited and sounds as though she might believe anything anyone told her.
Agreed. Your friend sounds like she doesn't exactly have an open mind when it comes to sex. I've done it with my guy and we have a fantastic relationship and sex life. Pretty sure the devil has subverted us yet. ;) The only way something sexual could be considered the devil/bad is if something is going on that harms the relationship, violates trust, puts someone in danger, or isn't consensual. I wouldn't listen to her.
FI and I didn't start doing this until more recently. He found it awkward because in his mind it was something you did in private. He's starting to open up more and is really enjoying it. =)
I got a BS in Psych and am now getting a Masters in it and I think that MOST marriage counselors would be all for it! Its what works for you in your relationship! Sometimes marriage counselors even prescribe it to their clients!
I watch it from time to time with my fiance, we arent addicts or even fetish, just every once in a while we like to spice things up alittle. But going almost 3 months without having sex (I had a vaginal hysterectomy in December) we dont need any spicing up at the moment because I was just taken off restrictions this past week :D
But it's not strange to watch it together, I would however be concerned if you find yourself or him having to watch it in order to get "in the mood" or watching it obsessively.
I don't think your friend ought to have any say in YOUR sex life...
We do it occasionally, and we both find it enjoyable, so who is it hurting?
I think it's totally normal. many people do this, probably more than you think. as for your friend-- that was a very uptight, rude, judgemental thing for her to say to you. I wouldn't worry about what she has to say.
I think it's fine, my man and I do that sometimes. Hell, I'm friends with some of his favorite webmodels lol.
It's normal for us but we usually don't get too far into it because we get too hot for each other, lol . . . we've never made it to the end of one.
@mrs.folks.to.be: My FI and I watch porn together and we have an amazing and very active sex life. So for your friend to make such a comment is stupid on her behalf, maybe her boring sex life has lead her to try and rain on everyone else's parade...make ppl feel bad about things they shouldn't feel bad about.
Glad I'm not the only one ladies! LOL. I was beginning to think I was a pervert! Lmao
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if you're both happy about it and it works for you then great!
Me and my fiancé have been together for 10 years and we've always been hot for one another in the bedroom but recently I've been catching myself watching pornos with him and then we usually have the best sex afterwards. Lol. But that's besides the point. Do other women do this? Is this normal? My friend gave me her opinion and said I'm entering the "devil" into my marriage before it even begins and advises that I should stop. What do you guys think?