Post # 1
My FMIL is desprately trying to match our wedding colors to a T. Going so far as buying a bridesmaid dress (which, granted it can work as a MOTG dress) and ordering it in the same color as my bridesmaids will be. She is even wanting us to order matching vest and tie for my FFIL to put with his tux. It just seems a little strange to me. I mean, is it normal for parents to match the wedding party that closely? Aren’t they going to look like they are a part of the WP? I know my parents aren’t going to match. My mom isn’t going to clash but she wont be in WP colors. Even my Dad who is officiating wont match exactly… am I weird or is she weird?
Post # 3
Typically they don’t match but they coordinate. I was in a friends wedding last year and her mom wore the same color as the bridesmaids. Given it was a black dress but she looked like a bridesmaid. I wasn’t really a fan. As for the dads, I have seen them match a number of times and never really thought much of it.
My girls are wearing burnt orange dresses. FI’s moms dress is hunter green and my mom will more than likely be wearing navy.
Post # 4
I can understand complimenting your BM dresses but not matching them.
I would suggest going shopping with her one day and bringing the dress she purchased (a little different), and coming up with a complimenting/contrasting colour for her. People can be funny about pictures but no one needs to be super matchy matchy.
Post # 5
HEY BEES!!!! THIS IS YOUR DAY! HONEY IF YOU WANT THEM TO MATCH…MAKE ‘EM MATCH. THE MOST MEMORABLE WEDDINGS ARE THE ONES THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM THE NORM. ME…I’VE FOUND DRESS FOR MOM ON A SIMILAR DESIGN AND THE COLOR OF THE GM TUX’S.
BUT THAT’S WHAT I WANT..YA KNO.
Post # 6
My MIL coordinated with the wedding colours in that her dress had the same blue as all my features and the same brown as the bridesmaids but didn’t match, it looked great, and the most amazing thing is that she did it by accident.
Her husband matched his tie to her,
Also we had the groomsmen with lilac ties and the grooms brother and sister in law ended up wearing lilac too. Everything complimented each other brilliantly
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Post # 7
@kfricke89: You’re not weird. Yes it’s great for them to go with your colours but I personally would not want her to match that exactly.
Post # 8
The MOB dress should coordinate or be in the same family of colors as the wedding party. Example – If the BM dresses are baby blue, the MOB dress could be like a navy blue. MOB sets the tone for the mothers dresses and the FMILs dress should coordinate with the color and tone of the MOBs dress.
Anyway, that is what is customary.
Post # 9
I agree the EXACT share may be going a bit too far. My BMs wore lt. blue dresses with a navy sash and MOB wore a medium blue dress, MOG wore a eggplant and green dress which sounds odd but was really nice and coordinated well. Completely by accident, my 3 aunts all wore navy blue and his aunt wore an eggplant dress (the same dress she wore to her daughter’s wedding). The my brother’s gf wore purple and my cousin’s wife wore eggplant and everyone else was in black. This translated to a very nice color pallet for family photos but was completely by accident.
In your place, I’d rather she had the exact color than one that would clash but I’d try suggesting she get a shade darker or lighter if he’s open to suggestions. As far as FFIL, maybe suggest he wear a black or other neutral colored vest, I would imagine he’d be easy to sway if she’s the one concerned with matching him. If she goes a shade darker or lighter, he can too and they can match each other.
Post # 10
My mother wanted to wear the same color as the girls because she fell in love with the dress. I thought it looked good 🙂 Luckily it was a completely different style and material so she didn’t match them.
Post # 11
When my brother got married, they had light grey tux’s and she got a dress to match the GUYS since she was MOTG.
Post # 12
My FMIL just bought her dress last night. It is navy blue, and so are my bridesmaids’ dresses. However, BMs are short, and hers is definitely a MOG dress, so I’m not concerned. On the other hand, this is my mom’s dress. One thing to consider is whether they’ll be in pictures with the wedding party. FMIL will most likely not be in any pics with a BM, so then it really doesn’t matter..
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
It is traditional to coordinate but I put our moms in tans and browns while our bridal party were in hot pink dresses. Try and talk your mom into a neutral shade that coordinates.
You can see the photos of thier dresses here: http://www.weddingbee.com/2010/11/22/dressing-up-with-our-moms/
Post # 14
I wouldn’t do it but I dont really think it matters. It would look cute either way.
Post # 15
As a Mom of the Bride and having been with my husband for over 25 years, I would like to add this perspective. Perhaps your FMIL is trying to please you and show how much she is on board with your theme. Whatever you do, don’t get so focused on details that you miss the overall picture, your relationship that will be life-long with your FH’s mother. Who cares if she wants to wear the same color as your bridesmaids? No one will mistake her for one of your friends. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they are doing something out of the good places in their hearts. Your FMIL most likely wants to please you and fit in to the ceremony. It’s really not a big deal and if you can avoid a conflict, I would keep my mouth shut and embrace her. It’s a LONG life, happy relations with in-laws make it a lot easier, especially when kids come along.