(Closed) Is it normal to argue so much right before wedding??

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

you’re not alone.  Fiance and I had a “spirited” discussion about gathering addresses for invites over the weekend. 

We don’t normally have “spirited” conversations  LOL  we are both just stressed out.

Post # 4
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s very normal, but now that you recognize the problem you should work on it. My fiance and I went through marriage counseling a week back and we have been in much better spirit and much more relaxed about the wedding and details. I only wish that we had done it earlier. We are more in tune with one another and are picking up wherever the other slacks off. It is so refreshing. Maybe seeking out some counsel is the way for you two to get back to what attracted you in the first place and to relieve some of the wedding planning stress.


Post # 5
9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@JennyPPB:   Our wedding is closer than yours and we’ve had zero fights or arguments about anything wedding-related.  That said, however, your situation sounds a lot more stressful than what we’re dealing with.

I would chalk it up to stress since your relationship is normally a healthy and positive one with good communication.

How about giving each other a break very soon and planning a romantic non-wedding-related evening together?  Go on a date and make an agreement to NOT discuss the wedding.  Talk only about current events, fun stuff, and things you have in common that you usually enjoy discussing.  Or share a fun activity together that you used to do more frequently.

Let him know how much you love him, and how excited you are about the wedding, but that you want him all to yourself a little while, with no distractions.  Put the wedding on the back burner for just one night.  You deserve a break!

Post # 6
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Life goes back to normal after the wedding, don’t worry. The stress is overwhelming, but it will go away.

For Darling Husband and I, we agree with each other so much and understand each other so well that during the few instances that we don’t see eye to eye, we argue because we just don’t understand how the other person could feel differently. Well, duh! We are in fact two different people, but sometimes even we forget that. 

Cut both of you some slack. Focus on the bigger picture, and don’t doubt your love. You’ll make it through wedding planning!

Post # 8
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s normal.  I agree with the idea of having a romantic no wedding talk kind of night.

Post # 9
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yuuuuup. We fought SO much over the past year…mostly because both of our sets of parents have been so terrible and each wanting their own way. We aren’t fighting anymore now, thankfully, but it really sucked for a while. It’s a stressful time and parents sometimes make it worse…

One thing that helped us was we would have a set time to talk about specific things for the wedding, say 5-7 on Wednesday. Once it hit 7pm, we would wrap it up and save the rest of it for another day. It helped us focus and it really helped us to end discussions if they were getting heated.

Post # 10
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We fought a lot in the weeks before the wedding, which was so weird since we are both really passive and communicate with each other really well. I was really worried the week before the wedding because we kept fighting over stupid stuff and I kept crying and was really emotional. Turns out, it was just wedding stress. We are so incredibly happy now and get along wonderfully!

Post # 11
583 posts
Busy bee

Tooootally normal.  We also prided ourselves on our communication and ESP.  Buuuut with the wedding approaching, we haven’t finished each other’s sentences in a long ass time and are frequently snippy about stupid stuff.  Yet one more obnoxious thing about wedding planning – stress makes you both into people you aren’t normally.

Post # 12
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i always hear people say that they got into a big argument with their fiance(e) right before the wedding. i’m sure it’s totally normal with all the stress and emotions running so high. it hasn’t happened yet with my fiance and i. we’ve done our usual bickering, but no real big fights yet.

Post # 13
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

YUP. Literally the day after we were purring like kittens. We even argued today and it was over in 2 minutes. Nothing fuels tension like a wedding! 

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