Yep, you read it right. While talking with a friend (who happens to be a Christian, homeschool mom) she said that her husband calling her vile names when they are having sex really does it for her. She wanted my opinion on if that is normal (as well as my opinion on if that is okay as a Christian). I told her that I have no judgement about that and there are probably way more freaky people than we think. I am surprised more than anything. What do you think? Is it normal to get turned on by being called a whore?
I don't see what the problem is, it's just a word. Sometimes when things get rough, I like similar talk.
Quite normal to live out sexual fantasies. :) Life needs a little dirty talk every once in a while!
I hesitate to label what others do in the privacy of their own bedrooms as "normal" or not, but I can say from personal experience, it bothered me. A part of my brain that is hard-wired for feminism really disliked it. It was hot for a minute, and then I wanted the name-calling to stop.
But to each her own, I think!
For me personally that isn't normal, but ive heard of couples doing that before so it doesn't surprise me too much. I think I would laugh if my SO said that to me, though. lol
Whatever flips your switch as long as both parties are legal and consenting is A-OK by me!
I think it's hot during the throes of passion when a sudden, "Oh, you dirty bitch" slips out when I'm on top or doing a new oral technique. As long as it doesn't happen in "real life," it's hot to me. But a lot of negative talk isn't cool.
As long as someone isn't disrepectful to their partner in everyday life, I think kinky play like that in the bedroom is fine.
It's not uncommon in the bedroom. In everyday conversation, that would be bizarre.
I don't see an issue with it at all, Christian or non, as long as both parties understand the parameters involved in " fantasy time" while having sex. Sometimes you just gotta let your freak flag fly, and this is one way people do it!
I would say that's fine for behind closed doors. As long as he doesn't talk to her like that on a regular basis. It's dirty talk!
I'm a Christian (and was a SAHM for a long time, though not homeschooling) and I think there is nothing wrong with a Christian couple doing this, if they are both happy with it (as evidently they are). As for whether it's normal: so long as it's not sinful, who cares? Personally I wouldn't like it (at all!) if my husband called me that, but that's not the point.
@paula1248: So it's not okay if non christians do it?
ETA:In the context of the question I kind of understand what you mean. But as a general statement it really makes me question what you mean.
I am confused by that statement.
@MrsFuzzyFace: I can't say that that turns me on, but I think it's fairly common. Doesn't make you a bad person!
Dirty little slut is our preferred term, but I think its completely normal! Speaking in terms of in the bedroom---of course, but seriously calling your wife a whore like in public or something would be unacceptable. My DH would never ever do anything like that, we both understand its just a way to up the excitement in the bedroom. It is a turn-on to me, but everyone is different! :)
Normal. Personally, I like dirty talk but being called a whore is too much.
I think it is very normal do want to be called dirty names in bed and as long as both parties consent, there is nothing wrong with it.
Meh, people say crazy shit during sex...people want crazy shit during sex....in the moment, anything can be hotter than hell! Besides, you show me some normal behavior, I'd really like to see it.
I'd say it's normal for her, so it's normal in some sense right? She probably just likes the change, feeling like someone she's not. Instead of feeling like "goody too shoes" she feels a little more dark. And that's ok as long as she's ok with it
that's a bit over the top degrading to me. but hey as long as he respects the relationship and she's all for it what the hell call 'er a whore.
As long as they are both into then who cares if it is "normal"?
@MrsMeNow: that is pretty much what I told her. Just be who you are and do t worry about labeling it.
I guess it depends on whether said person was ever actually a whore. Did she fuck dudes for money or drugs? If the answer is no, and the frisky vocabulary is all in good fun, who cares?
@Puffthemagicdragon: Yeah, it's probably better to only have been *called* a whore than to actually have ever legitimately been a career whore.
I can't get behind either of those in my daily life, but if I had a gun to my head, I know in a heart beat which one I'd pick.
@MrsFuzzyFace: calling her a whore is part of the dirty talk which gets some people off. I personally have tried dirty talk before and it's quite a turn on.
JulesSchnooks: Agreed. Playing skanky whore in the privacy of ones bedroom is a heck of a lot better than being one in real life.
As long as the name calling stays in the bedroom, then I think it's fine! Dirty talk is perfectly normal, IMO.
I wouldn't say it's abnormal. A fetish more than anything, I think. It could be worse. At least he's not calling her a whore in front of their families. Now THAT would be awkward
Interesting!!!
Words do not do anything for me during but I can see other people enjoy them.
It's hot in the bedroom. I don't mind if DH calls me a slut or a whore in the bedroom. I know he doesn't really think I'm a whore.
He also says "oh god" a lot in the bedroom and he's a big giant atheist.
Bedroom words =\= real world words.
dirty talk ranks pretty low on the scale of unusual bedroom behaviour imo.
It's not something we've done much lately but in the past, yes, I've enjoyed being called such names when the moment is right.
I can't bring myself to care about anyone else's sex life but my own!
It's just dirty talk. Normal is not relevant, you like what you like and as long as everyone's happy and consenting, you got no worries. Yeah, for her purposes, it's normal. (I like it a lot, though it's hard getting FI to do it, haha.)
Also agreed with the "words you say during sex have different meanings than when you say them other times" thing.
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