Post # 1
of even getting married?
I feel so emotional and so confused about my entire life.
The last week or so I feel like I might even be depressed. I think the thought of being married in under a month is pushing me into this state of mind.
I feel like I’ve even like …. given up on life. I don’t feel good anymore, I’ve stopped working out completely, I am eating like a cow … and now I’m at the point where I’m like …
Oh.My.Gosh. is this the right thing to do? Will I want to be with this man forever and him with me? Everything that bothers me about him … really is exagerated right now. I’m so frustrated and annoyed that I take everything out on him.
Even when he eats the things I buy just for me … like non-dairy things – he eats THEM ALL and I get so annoyed that he eats everything and that I bought them for me and they’re mine … not his.
I’m annoyed of living with him even … it’s getting really bad how I feel.
I cannot snap out of it. I am supposed to get married in 20 days.
Post # 3
I think you’re probably just “OVER IT” as in the wedding planning and just need to step away. I think its completely normal and you’re going to be ok. I get super pissy with my FI on that special week of the month and completely unleash the wrath of all my frustrations. Something good to do is reminisce about all the good things and great times and just remember all the ways in which he makes you better and how you make him better. Get some alone time, do some yoga or just have a spa day for yourself where you get to cut him out and actually miss him. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
You’re so right …I am probably overdosing on “wedding” LOL
I am so addicted that for the last 8 months I’ve ate, drank, and slept wedding. Maybe I’m just burned out? I feel exhausted like I have a ton of bricks I’m carrying.
Post # 5
The month before the wedding is such an emotionally charged time!
Everything seems like the biggest deal in the world, ( I know I was tense, cried buckets, and was trying so hard not to be a bridezilla that I ended up taking out more on my then-FI than I ever wanted or expected to,) and everyone puts so much pressure on themselves and their spouse-to-be for those days to be perfect… if you were sure that he was the one for you up until this point, then you will be absolutely fine after the wedding…. and will fall back into a happy, loved-up state – I promise!
Post # 6
I feel so … tense. Like I’m suffocating. Maybe I should callon my mother and sister and go for a weekend away? Next weekwill be killer too. I have 4 wedding meetings.
Post # 7
Ok eating your dairy-free stuff is annoying, tell him to cut that out 🙂 But seriously… you just sound super stressed. Stop thinking about getting married and start thinking about being married. When you have a crappy day at work, do you want him there when you get home? Do you dream of traveling with him? When you feel like spending a lazy day at home, do you want him cuddled up on the couch watching movies with you? You’ll get over this stress and it will all be great.
Post # 8
YES I want him here with me. =) Now, I cannot imagine life without him. I do love him and I know he’s the one. I am just so stressed…. that I might be sabotaging myself.
I went to lunch with my mom and you know how a mother can look at you and “just know” and all of a sudden you’re mush and crying … well that’s what happened!!!
She told me … you don’t have to get married. THANKS MOTHER.
Post # 9
Step away from the magazines and the planning. Schedule a date night and date.
This is normal. You’re stressing, that’s all.
Post # 10
Yeah, it just sounds like major stress! I’m so sorry MsHymanRoth!
I would definitely work in some workout time if you can… blow off some steam! And girl, let yourself cry if you feel like crying!
Post # 11
Definitly sounds like stress. You guys should go out and have dinner…take a walk…watch a movie. Anything NOT wedding related. Sounds like you need a breather! If you can’t miagine life w/o your FI, then don’t try to! = )
Post # 12
yep, sounds like a case of too-much-planning.
Can you and FI take a night off and go out together and not think about the wedding at all? Remember why you’re marrying him! The jitters should dissolve 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Yep, sounds normal to me. I’ve been on quite the emotional rollercoaster myself these past couple of weeks. One day, I’m over the moon and can’t stop smiling, and the next day, I’m all “OMG should we be getting married?!?”
I think it’s normal to be a basketcase. See if you can take a break for a day!
Post # 14
I think its normal to freak out a little i mean its a huge step in life one you want to get right the first time.
Post # 15
Oh no! It sounds like you are just feeling overwhelemed. If you have time, I would suggest looking for a website called ’emotionally engaged’ as well as another site called consciousweddings.com.
About a week after I got engaged, I felt totally depressed. My fiancee was driving me crazy with EVERYTHING and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. As it turns out, this is NORMAL. You’re going through a MAJOR life transition here and your feelings of sadness and confusion are normal.
I found those two sites a few weeks after we got engaged, and just in reading through the postings there and going through some information on the sites (I also bought the books) I realized I was NOT alone, just because I was freaking didn’t mean I didn’t want to marry my fiancee, and I almost immediately felt happier.
I would suggest keeping a journal right now to just try and get to the root of your feelings and vent somewhere private and try and spend some time acknowledging what you are going through.
Post # 16
aww you are probably feeling so stressed because your wedding is so soon and everything is getting on your nerves. I’d suggest you take some “me time”. and just go on a long weekend or take an entire day off and just do something fun and nothing wedding related! You’ll be dancing on your wedding day soon and having an absolute blast!