Post # 1
When it rains, it pours. I had been so calm throughout this whole wedding planning. We had a quick engagement (6 months) and I have been very ‘go with the flow’ managing to get everything done in record time. Everyone has commented on how chill I’ve been.
Yesterday, everything seemed to bubble over. I had my final dress fitting and I wasn’t happy with how I looked. Tears kept coming to my eyes. I saw arm fat bubbling over even though my mom and sister swore it was all in my head. I spent way too much money running around getting last minute details for the wedding that I hadn’t budgeted for. I broke a window pane while trying to do our wedding window program.
I spent the entire night on the computer fixing up all of the table numbers, labels, signs, etc. The computer crashed. Like, died completely. Our just-out-of-warranty-range macbook. On top of losing all of my wedding things (a week and a bit before the wedding), I have to potentially pay for a new computer.
I went to bed hyperventalating and crying so hard that I could barely breathe. I have never felt like that before! My Fiance kept trying to soothe me and saying it was just a computer. Even I couldn’t’ explain why I was reacting like that.
Am I crazy?
Post # 3
YES, this is NORMAL. I did 6 month planning too, and I was crying almost every night leading up to the rehearsal dinner, stressing about what was not done. Don’t worry – It will all be worth it and you won’t feel like this on your day.
When my day finally came, I didn’t care about anything except getting married. Just promise yourself, that you aren’t going to do any work or any more last minute details on the wedding day. I told everyone that if they needed a decision from me on that day, then to make it for me, because that was a day I was going to enjoy!
Your wedding day (also my birthday:) will be wonderful! Also, treat yourself to something today – a latte or whatever. You aren’t crazy.
Post # 4
Is it normal to not have a meltdown right before the wedding?
I think everyone has one, no matter how big or small. It is a right of passage. I’m sure mine will be awesome. Hang in there – you are so close!
Post # 5
100% normal. The day before my wedding I had a complete and total meltdown because they delivered the wrong tables. Sobbing, hyperventilating, un-calm-able meltdown. Not my finest moment.
Post # 6
I certainly hope so – because I totally did 🙁 between our original venue canceling, family drama, and all – I kind of lost it and I’m not a cryer (thank goodness only my hubs saw).
But on the day of, everyone kept saying how calm of a bride I was, even when there were things I didn’t like, at that point I was like “WHATEVER – I’m DONE. When’s our flight to Jamaica?”
Post # 7
I feel you! My FI’s car died and my car is in the shop with potential transmission problems. Ugh, I feel nauseaus thinking about it.
But yeah. It’s totally normal. I blow off stress by playing video games, and I’ve done a ton of that lately. It’s helped me from spazzing out on people, but I can seriously cry at the drop of a hat.
Post # 8
@missbeachbum: No, you’re not crazy. Just remember there is a light – and a brand new hubby – at the end of the wedding planning tunnel. It’s going to be beautiful, amazing day. Don’t worry, things will work out.
If it makes you feel any better I had my total hyperventilating, sobbing, freak out fest last night after I learned the hotel lost our confirmations & the hotel is now booked to capacity – so we get to pay triple our original rate. On top of that, our officiant is now requesting us to pay for his hotel room in addition to a big donation. And we can’t change up because he’s my dad’s friend.
And I have a huge zit on my chin. I have to keep reminding myself that it’s one day and then we’ll be married forever.
Post # 9
Oh I think its normal ….I just had one yesterday too…..We just finalized our flowers. Yesterday. Ha. Some of my vendors arent returning my emails and phone calls, I still have no clue what I’m doing with my hair and makeup yet. I’m moving the day after the wedding to a completely different state and I still have not started packing. So. Much. To. Do. I’m very overwhelmed AND I’m starting to get sick. So, I feel you.
Post # 10
Date twin! And yes its totally normal! I had mine last week,BIG meltdown because my dress was insanely too small on me,for no particular reason. So I threw an almighty wobbler,crying, shouting even stamping my feet (I am not proud of myself) But the next day, I felt just so calm when Id gotton everything out in my little tantrum. After that I was able to think clearly and come up with a solution (dress is being fixed as we speak lol)
So yes, its normal, but it will pass,and at the end of it all you will have a wonderful day and a new wonderful husband! Its not long now hun!
Post # 11
OMG I am SO OVER wedding planning. I didn’t even want a wedding. I just wanted to get married. We are having serious management issues with respect to who will set up our rentals and make sure things go smoothly day-of. Long story short, I expected our venue owners to handle this and they are not stepping up to the plate. My fiance has been blowing off the details for months and letting me worry about them, and last night I finally lost it. I told him he has to fix this management problem. I have a bazillion other things to do and I’ll be d%mned if I have to worry about who is going to put the chairs at the tables at our reception.
What a mistake. I should have insisted on City Hall. We would be married either way, and I would have saved a ton of hassle and expense. Do all these people even care about being at my wedding?! Probably not!
Calgon, take me awaaaaay!!!
I can’t concentrate on my last three days at work. Ugh ugh ugh.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I hope so! Otherwise I’m in big trouble!
I kind of think of wedding planning like any other really stressful time: getting through finals week in college, completing a huge work project, etc. We’re working so hard and being stretched so thin, it’s only reasonable that we’ll crack at some point. I’d like to meet the bride who never had some sort of a meltdown!
Post # 13
Thank you SO much everyone for your answers. I feel better knowing that I’m in good company, stress-wise. I thought I was crazy because it’s so out of character for me. I decided to take the day off wedding things completely – going for a walk on the beach, playing with my puppy, long bubble bath, baking….all things that I love(d) to do (before wedding planning). Tomorrow I’ll get back to it – buckle up and get things fixed up.
Oh, did I mention that my bridesmaid dresses still aren’t in?? We ordered twobirds dresses from Toronto and they are being impossible to get ahold of. They are apparantly “in the mail” but I have no tracking number and it’s been a week since they last told me that. But now I am going to keep my promise to myself and deal with that tomorrow and read a (non-wedding related) book instead!
Thanks again… I feel infinitely better and hope that all your own stresses dash away quickly as well!
Post # 14
I had mine last night. After HOURS of working on our programs, and having my Fiance check it over again, I started printing. Over 60 in, I realized his grandma’s name is wrong. I was soooo tired (it was past midnight) and I couldn’t let it go, so I texted him. He called (even though he was aslepe) and felt bad, but I just kept telling him about how much time it had taken me, and how I have to buy a new packet of programs. And I cried. A lot.
I just feel like I’m the one doing all the work, and even though he says he appreciates it, he’ll never know just how much I’ve done. Grrr. Oh well, in two weeks it won’t matter, it will be over and done, and we will be in Ireland. Trying to focus on the big picture!
Post # 15
@SouthernTulip: “WHATEVER – I’m DONE. When’s our flight to Jamaica?” HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH Exactly!!!!!!
Nobody ever talks about the hellish experience wedding planning can be.
Post # 16
Oh hunnie!! This even though you feel a little crazy, is normal. 100% Dont stress about that. I think even not wedding a week a way could make anyone super upset and stressed out, so having a wedding on top of that is bound to make you an emotional wreck!! I am so sorry that you are going through this. Just know that You have every reason to feel that way that you do. Try to take a mental health day for yourself!! *HUGS*