Is it normal to have nerves about getting engaged?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I would say it’s a nervous excitement. I’m in the same boat as you and I get so jittery with excitement sometimes when I think about it. It’s such a huge step in a relationship and it’s almost here! That’s huge!! Congrats 🙂

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was really nervous too but I kept thinking “only shit, this time next week I could be engaged!!”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’ve technically been “waiting” for an engagement for a couple years now, but one night recently I was convinced it was going to happen that night.  I started getting super nervous for some reason!  

It didn’t happen that night, but I’m actually thankful it didn’t, because that nervousness made me realize a couple of things.  For as much as I’ve been snooping around on the bee, and doing research on venues and vendors in my area, I never thought about what I would do once I actually got engaged!  Like, where do I start?  I went home that night and wrote out a checklist broken out by month.  It sounds a little crazy, and I know there are a ton of checklists out there, but it’s so hard to go from “thinking about planning” to “starting to plan.”  This helped me feel a lot more prepared.

It’s also kind of nervewracking as far as the emotional response.  This is something lots of us wait for and are ready for, but we can’t actually understand the thoughts or feelings we will have when it’s happening!  I also think a lot of the nervousness is just excitement.  I wouldn’t worry about it!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I could be engaged any day now, or not.  We narrowed it down to 3 rings and he has the final say so I dont know which one I’m getting or when it will actually happen.  This our way of keeping it a surprize.  I’m in a constant state of nervous excitement.  He is taking full advantage of this and playing with my head haha.  He’ll tell me he has a suprize for me and then it’ll be that he’s made me dinner.  I think its funny.  You should enjoy this feeling.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Definitely embrace the nervous energy. Its tangible proof that your life is on the brink of change. Just make sure you keep your nails done! LOL

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I am completely happy with my fiance, but I flipped out a bit. Feelings of dread should be addressed, but feelings of “holy fuck this is a big transition” are normal

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

paigey22:  It’s anticipation. I knew my proposal was coming but my mind still went blank when I saw him down on one knee. It’s a big transition and as much as you are still a “couple” before and after a proposal, there is a distinctly different feeling to “us” after a proposal.

Embrace the feeling, it’s so fun being just on the cusp of engagement and newly engaged 🙂 I’ve only been engaged since June and now I’m in the dregs of wedding planning 😛 I kinda long for that newly engaged feeling.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I got nervous a few days before my fiance proposed. I knew it was coming and although I was excited, getting engaged is a major life event and it just gave me some butterflies when I thought about it. I feel the same way about our wedding ceremony – excited, but I get nerves when I think about it. Enjoy the anticipation 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I thought I was going to be getting engaged recently while on vacation in Disney World during the fireworks. I have been excited to get engaged, but at that moment I was SO nervous that I felt like I was going to throw up! It was a good nervousness/throw up feeling (lol), but .. it didn’t happen. Still waiting!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wasnt nervous at all but I went jelly legged at the wedding ceremony!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I think it could just be the “not in control” thing. That’s how I’ve been feeling lately! I am nervous because it could strike at any moment and I have no say in it! But its all happy nerves 🙂 It just reaffirms how much you love him that he makes you nervous (weird and backwards, but its like the first date jitters all over again)

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

In the exact same place as you! I think it comes down to the thinking of “wow this is actually happening” after talking and thinking about it so much. Definitely is anticipation but embrace it you are going to be with the man you love!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I was nervous right before getting engaged. I didn’t have any doubts aoubt marrying my FI, but nervous about starting a new phase in our relationship.

My FI told me afterwards, that the day or two before he proposed he was really nervous, wanting to make sure that he was taking the right step. After proposing his nerves went away.

I think some nerves are normal (at least I certainly hope they are!). It’s a big step, one which both my FI and I believe should not be entered into lightly.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

I didnt have the pre engagement nerves. We had talked and decided we wanted to get engaged. The nerves hit AFTER i had the ring. For both of us. There was like this “Whoa what are we doing?” thing each of us experienced. Totally normal. 

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